Success takes time, fortitude and a certain measure of self-esteem. If you’re in short supply of any of these things, sometimes it’s worth “faking it to make it.”

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I want to tell you a story, a story that may help you when you are feeling like a fraud as you try to make a career out of saving the world. A story that may help you see yourself as an influencer rather than a poser, an insider instead of someone always knocking on investors’ doors asking to be let in. A story that may help you feel like you belong doing what you are doing.

My dad was a reader not a thrower. He never took us into the back yard with a bat and ball. Come to think of it, I’ve never seen a ball in his hand. But in spite of this, or maybe because of this, I’ve always admired athletes. I’ve admired their grace, skill and form and have longed to be one of those gifted people who can catch a ball and toss it back without putting an eye out in the process.

The thing is, I’m not that kind of girl. The kind of girl who admires from afar. When I admire something I try to become it. I have to get right in there and give it a shot. Here are the side effects of being that kind of girl: embarrassment, injury, loss, rejection, more embarrassment and more rejection.

In high school, I wanted badly to be on the track team. I was not fast, nor could I jump or throw, so I took on the mile run and I did it badly.

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For three years I came in last place every single time I raced (and I’m flattering myself when I use the word race). It must have been torture for people watching me. I remember wanting to do better but not knowing how to, wanting to be part of the team and – if I’m honest – flirt with the boys on the track bus during away meets. In my senior year the coach Roland Antilla, a jock of historic proportions pulled me aside and said, and I quote, “Please God, don’t run this year, you can ride the bus and be a part of the team but don’t make me watch you run anymore.”

So, I rode that bus and embarrassed but undeterred I never stopped running. I ran all the way through nursing school and my post-graduate studies in exercise physiology and exercise psychology entering triathlon after triathlon (turns out there was a sport for me) while studying what I admire most – the human body and mind.

Ironically, after all these years, I find that I am truly my father’s daughter. I’m a reader and a writer. You see, I have always admired authors, so I began writing. I wrote even after my grad school professor and mentor of ten years said to me, “You are the worst writer I have ever come across and I’ve obviously failed as a mentor to you.” Embarrassed, rejected, I kept trying. Then, one day, I won a writing contest and everything changed.

I faked it and faked it until I found the kind of writing that I am good at. I’m good at story telling. So I started writing stories that got rejected, over and over again. I was embarrassed and discouraged when one literary agent wrote in response to my pitch for a novel, “No way, this is ridiculous, stop writing.” I put my head down and wrote some more.

I can’t explain where this stubbornness comes from. I can’t fathom my ability to continue when all signs say to stop. Moreover, I’m relieved that I funnel that stubbornness into something worthy rather than stalking old boyfriends or collecting ceramic cats.

In the end there is a lesson here, success takes time, fortitude and a certain measure of self-esteem. But, it also takes some faking until you make it. If you act it long enough you will become it. Fake it baby, because eventually the embarrassment and rejection fades and you make it.

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About the author

Ann Garvin

Ann Garvin

Ann is an author, speaker and educator. As professor of health, stress management, research methods and media literacy at University of Wisconsin Whitewater, she has worked extensively in psychometrics, statistics and psychology. Ann is the author of On Maggie’s Watch & The Dog Year (Berkley Penguin, 2014).

  • Matthew McDonald

    Wow, this is great! I can totally identify with that feeling – especially when I’ve tried writing. It is inspiring that you persisted. Out of curiosity – what does “making it” feel like? Thanks for the article.

  • Ann Wertz Garvin

    “Making it” feels pretty good (but I’m not sure I ever believe that I’ve actually made it and maybe that’s why I feel like I’m constantly still faking it. That’s a totally different blog though 🙂

  • Katie Moretti

    I love this! Do we ever stop feeling like we’re faking it? 🙂

  • Ann Wertz Garvin

    I rarely do.

  • Judith Mortenson

    And just as I was about to burry my wanna-be-writer head in the sand … out of nowhere comes inspiration to get my head to higher ground. Thank you!

  • Ann, your unchecked aspiration + stubbornness to overcome challenges is so inspiring! Thank you for your insight + wisdom!

  • Ann Wertz Garvin

    Judith, I know the feeling. I’m glad this gave you a little inspiration. Momentary low self-esteem can be a great motivator as long as it’s just momentary.!

  • Jeremy Demos

    So when do we stop faking it? At what point do you consider that you’ve made it and don’t want to go any father? There’s always another step in front of you, another step up the chain. Once you think you’re at the top, there’s always a way to expand and improve. Even after ‘making it’ and having the skills and knowledge for the jobs below you, it is always advisable to know how to do the jobs of those around you. I was told by a wise, crusty, old Command Sergeant Major (the best kind of CSM) that to be a leader and to advance you need to know 100% of your job and everyone else’s below you, 75% of the job of the people on your left and right, and 50% of your boss’ job. Using that sage advice, when asked to step up, you can use that knowledge to fake it even more convincingly.

  • Tyler Pierce

    Ann, this is very inspiring with all of your failures that have came true with your perseverance to achieve. I will use your stories to help keep my fuel of achieving my dream job and not settling for the easier one. Where do you draw the line from embarrassment to self-humiliation, where I feel can mentally hurt you?

  • Nathan Gillette

    When does it become to much? I love competition and working hard but when i failed numerous times I turned my attention else where I wish i could have stuck with things longer and got the the embarrassment of failure as you did because you have turned out great and very inspiring, i hope i can do the same being a washed up athlete turned into one of the greatest coaches of all time. Many doubt me but i will one day prove them wrong!! Awesome article Ann!

  • hensella

    Great article Ann. I think it applies to the majority of people. I know I have gone through this numerous times. Dealing with rejection is tough, but it’s a mental toughness that helps you get through the hard times. This article really applies to people once they get out of undergrad and have to face real world problems and bosses or coworkers who evaluate them. I think if you keep your priorities in order not get caught up in “stalking old boyfriends or collecting ceramic cats” then that helps tremendously. Do you feel you have to “fake it” more now or earlier in life?

  • kkachel

    I have a young relative who joined the cross country team in high school. He came in last at just about every meet. Teammates wondered why he was on the team in the first place. After all, he was not built like a runner, he had a very slow pace, and he didn’t mind losing. His goals were different than his teammates. If he finished the race, he felt gratified. He was just trying to stay in good physical shape. He stuck with the cross country team for four years. Finally, his coaches and teammates got it. The coaches put him on a different training regimen than the rest of the athletes. He trained at his own pace. He experienced his own success, on his own terms. I am willing to bet that ten or twenty years from now, he will still be running to benefit his own health. That in itself will be a huge accomplishment.

  • Kyle moore

    I can relate to this as well because my brother tries and tries and tries to succeed at sports like I did when younger but for some reason cannot get to the standard needed and is looked down on. He has a better work ethic than many kids I know and still tries. To make this story more heart felt, he has one arm shorter than the other by about 3 inches due to a complication of his growth plate which happened as a baby. But he did gymnastics and was darn good at it until he noticed this large difference and couldn’t continue. But besides that, the feeling of rejection sucks and hard to continue but when you know you love it and your giving it your all, there is nothing more to do.

  • Reece Raethke

    This reminds me of the old phrase “if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.” While I do believe perseverance has a lot to do with it, I think we also need to learn from each failure or rejection and come back better the next time. After each glaring loss or failure we need to say “okay I failed, why did I fail and how can I improve on that?” If you do something long enough you will eventually figure out how to be good at it.

  • Aaron Ackerman

    I am sort of the opposite to Ann in that I am a terrible writer and dislike doing it, but I have always been a pretty decent athlete at the sports I participate in. I completely understand your quote: “Fake it. Eventually the embarrassment and rejection fades and you make it.” in relationship to writing. However, I am curious in my situation and people like me if I wanted to try and new sport that I was bad at, how does “fake it” come into play? Does that mean try your hardest or more so act like you are good?

  • Robert Murdock

    I fully understand and agree with your thought of faking it. I too grew up in a home where sports had no real place but rather hard work than books. My father worked full time as well as running my grandparents family farm on the side so I didn’t see him much and most of the time it was late at night before going to bed. Yet I too found myself with similar admiration for athletes and the human body as a whole. When I took to waterskiing I became facinated with the discipline of trick skiing. I was told, “you’re probably gonna want to try something else,” or “you know that’s kind of hard to learn right?” yet I pushed on. I started to learn all the different movements and tricks to be performed hearing, “it looks awesome when you crash and burn,” yet I still continued on. Then at our state tournament in 2010 I stood up my trick pass in the show and ended up winning best trick award. I couldn’t tell who was more shocked, my friends in the crowd or myself. I remember asking the anounceer when I got my award, “Are you sure this is for me? No, seriously are you sure?” I was at the point that I was beginning to doubt myself when I won this award that it signaled to me, Don’t Give Up. If there was one thing not seeing my father much had instilled in me it was that work ethic, to push on and not give up. So today when I continually work on inverts and hear people laugh as I crash or say, “you know if you were shorter it would probably be easier…” I just smile, say “thank you captain obvious,” and get back up and try it one more time because eventually I will get int…Then what? On to the next trick.

  • Justin Shelton

    I agree fully with this article. It motivates me to never give up on something that I wish to be. I have always thought that when I fail at something, I should figure out what I could do better and give it another shot, whatever the task may be. Simply put, never give up on something that you want. However, it may be hard to take all of the criticism along the way but that goes along with the quote at the end of your article; “Eventually the embarassement and rejection fades and you make it.”

  • Travis Ricci

    This is exactly how i feel with track in college you always want to win and always want to be faster even though there is always someone bigger stronger faster then you are in life no matter what your doing but when you keep your success in mind i feel that i have a completely different outlook on what I’m trying to accomplish. Knowing that one of these days everything that i have put into running and competing will pay off maybe not exactly what i want but something to look back at later in life and be proud of myself and to show you kids you can do whatever you set you mind to when you never give up.

  • Sharmaine A.

    The phrase to me fake it til you make it say that it is okay to ease up when doing something. It’s okay if you don’t put your 100% percent. Ease your way to the top, if you have to.

  • Eric H

    You have great determination and motivation. Sometimes when I get embarrassed over and over again, I get so discouraged that I stay away from it. Your message is a great one. There will always be people in your life that think you suck at something and will never make it. It is up to you to zone them out or even use it as motivation to prove them wrong. At first I wasn’t doing well in school, then I started to tell myself I could be great, and I started to slowly do better. What if you truly are bad and faking doesn’t work anymore? Is it time to move on?

  • Kevin Semler

    Having the right motivation, and determination in most cases, is a great way to fake it until you make it. You have so many good points that most people disregard and fail at all the things in life that they could be successful in. If I gave up after every time my little league baseball coach said I threw like a girl, I wouldn’t have been an all-state third baseman my freshman year in high school and All-state team MVP my sophomore year. I learned early in life, probably by my parents, not to care what other people thought but myself

  • Ronny

    I agree in your last paragraph success takes time, fortitude, and a certain level of esteem with a bit of faking it. If people listened to the negatives and stopped trying and giving up things would be a lot different. This is a very inspiring article

  • Sydney Sipos

    Wow, this is just a personal testament to Ann’s will power. I can’t imagine having a HS teacher tell me not to run again, but still persisting on doing it throughout the rest of my life. Nonetheless, I guess it’s less of “practice makes perfect” than it is “practice creates improvement and consistency.” Now, when I hear the term “fake it till you make it,” I’m going to have a totally different outlook!

  • Brady Sexton

    Many people fall victim of giving up right when they were on the verge of a big success. If the results someone envisions for themselves do not happen in a time frame they believe to be acceptable they give up. The fight and journey is often more rewarding than finally reaching the destination. I think it is also important that some things are not always natural for someone. Sometimes, it takes the struggle, failure, and repeated attempts to finally get it.

  • Brooke Gregory

    I am going to be a senior with a major in chemistry and this blog hits home a little bit because I feel like I’ve retained about 30% of the information over the last three years. I know a lot more than I did going in don’t get me wrong but I feel like if I were to go into a career in chemistry right now I would be unprepared. So I guess this article has proven to me that I don’t have to know exactly what I’m doing or be good at it I just have to keep trying and being confident in myself and eventually it will all fall into place.

  • Kent Miehe

    In the movie “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest,” there’s a scene where Jack Nicholson is trying to escape the ward by lifting the bathroom sink and throwing it through the window. When he can’t move it, while everyone else stands and stares at him, he says, “Dammit, well at least I tried.” I am on the cross country and track teams here at Whitewater, and when I was in high school, I would always watched the slower JV runners during practice. It didn’t matter to them that they were coming in last, but they were giving everything they had to achieve their goal, and they had pride in that. If you have pride in what you do, you will succeed, no matter how many times you failed.

  • cateynavarro

    This story made me smile the entire time. I have so much respect for someone who doesn’t give up, and in a sense that is who I am too. I faked it till I made the dance team in high school and I couldn’t have asked for a better experience. I became the team “manager” and come tryouts the next year I was on the team. It was beautiful. I think part of the concept of faking it till you make it is believing in yourself and loving what you do so much that you are willing to take rejection and embarrassment. It was really hard watching the girls dance while I sat in the stands but it felt amazing that next year when I was out there dancing with them. I knew what I wanted and I never lost sight of it.

  • hasselbemj31

    This story was very inspirational. It takes an extremely tough and motivated individual to have a mind set as you did. Your story hit home to me. Ever since my first day of kindergarten I struggled in school. It was a consent struggle for me to read, solve math problems, write and I was even really shy. To start things off my parents sent me to school when I was a year younger than everyone else. I was still technically in the right grade but I made the cut off by the last day I could register. When you are that little, being a year younger makes a huge difference, many that people don’t even realize. As years went on I still began to struggle and teachers still began to tell my parents that my reading level was way to low for my grade level. Once third grade hit that is when things began to really set in and when I say set in, I mean teachers losing faith for me. My parents went to my third grade teacher parent conference and when they arrived my teacher, principle, and my others were present in the room. My parents were extremely worried and didn’t know what was going on. They were telling my parents that it was a good idea to hold me back because I wasn’t smart enough to move forward and if they didn’t I would struggle for the rest of my life. To end a really long story I went through high school with a 4.0, and am now a student at UW-Whitewater with a GPA of 3.8. My whole childhood I was told I was dumb and not as smart as my classmates and I was going to fail in life. This only made me learn how to study harder and prove people wrong. Eventually all the embarrassment I went through sure has paid off!

  • Hannah Leggett-Hintz

    This is such a captivating and eye opening article. I never ever ever EVER could have imagined you to be at all like was explained throughout here, except maybe the stubborn part. 😉 I don’t think I would have had it in me to keep pushing on when literally every single person around me had told me to quit. Literally just give up everything, even a potential dream, and quit. I understand the stubbornness because I myself have a very dominant German personality, leading to being extremely stubborn. However, with people so simply leading my life to discouragement, I don’t know how long I would be able to stand such ridicule. Major props to you for being so strong willed. Personally, I can easily relate this article to my life. I have always wished I could have been the kid who’s parents enrolled them in every activity super young. This way, when they were growing up, they would find the one thing they love. They would pursue this, and become amazing at it. I never had that kind of experience. My parents having a blended family of three boys and two girls, we didn’t have all the money in the world to have every kid do everything they ever wanted. Now that I’m at the college level, I can take care of and support myself. However, it’s always felt too late to become super amazing at one or two particular things. In the end though, I know that my identity remains in Christ, and that’s something that I as a Christian take complete comfort in.

  • Carly Konkol

    This is my favorite article of yours so far. 🙂 One that I can definitely relate to and something I think a lot of other children and young adults can relate to as well. Your stubborness to succeed in things definitely reflected mine as well. I tried out for Varsity dance my freshman year of high school. After many tears and frustration, I ended up making the team as one of the weakest dancers. As the years went on, I worked my hardest and ended up becoming on of the strongest dancers. I then took two years off and tried out for the Whitewater Dance Team, which was almost like starting all over. But with my stubborness, hard work and time, I made the team. I totally agree that little failures are meant to be strong motivators, not a means of defeating you. My story is not nearly as impressive as yours, I always admire people with strength and you are definitely one of them. These traits will and have gotten you far in life and I can only hope that I can use them to take me far in my own life.

  • Travis Mattice

    I like this article. But I am going to look at it from a different point of view. What about the people who hate embarrassment? The people who don’t take rejection well? For some people those two things are a hard thing to overcome. What do you say to those people? “Just do it anyway”? For some people they have been dealing with rejection their whole life. If you are one of those people it is a lot harder then just telling yourself to keep at it. You can only fail so many times before you stop trying. Like I said just a different point of view. I did like your story though.

  • Aarynn Bosshart

    Thank you for your honesty in this article. Like Travis, I have my own skepticisms here as well. From my point of view (a student), I look at people like you (my professors) with these long resumes of impressive accomplishments and think, “Wow, how do I even begin?” i find myself enamored because you make it look so easy. It’s not difficult to tell us to keep trying, because it worked for you. You’ve already made it as a successful writer and professor, but how did you know to do that? I fear that I’m going to spend years “faking” the wrong thing. I guess my question is, what if I keep failing or getting rejected because there is something else out there that I’d be more successful at and don’t know it yet. Maybe it’s a sign that it’s time to look somewhere else. For example, why did you not compete at state in track?You faked that for years, but you didn’t make it as the successful athlete you had hoped, so you went back to your roots. You realized you take after your father, and you started reading and writing. I enjoy teaching and have a lot of big ideas when it comes to education… but I also enjoy music performance, acting, art, and interior design. I guess, sometimes I just get confused about what I’m supposed to fake!

  • karinaz10

    This reminds me of Sue Heck from the ABC series The Middle. Sue is terrible at everything, but that never stops her. She tries and tries and tries until she makes it. It is also excellent advice for myself. I am an aspiring orthodontist, but my biggest fear is the rejection I might receive when applying to dental school. I suppose failure is a means for improvement. I think this is the message you are trying to convey. Failure, rejection, or embarrassment do not mean you should quit or give up. It is a chance to improve and grow. As far as dental school goes, I have no intention of giving up. If I must, I will fake it until I make it.

  • Alex Prailes

    Thank you for sharing your story! I find myself to be my worst critic, but when someone else discourages me I often find myself trying to prove them wrong. My sister especially is like this. We both love running, but when we ran a couple different races and I had the better time she definitely made it a point that she was going to do better on the next race, which she did. Do you apply this to everything you do in life?

  • Taylor Schaeffer

    This is a very inspirational article! I find it hard to deal with the criticisms of others and this article definitely opened my eyes and reminded me that it does not matter what other people think of me or what I am trying to accomplish. Thank you for sharing your story, I love how you kept going with running even after your coach asked you not to run anymore, I admire your perseverance because I would not have been able to deal with that situation nearly as well as you did. The embarrassment would have gotten to me and I would most likely have stopped running.

  • Glassborow

    Thank you for writing this encouraging article! I am my own worst enemy at times, I judge myself a lot and I can definitely say I am a perfectionist (which probably isn’t a good thing at times!) I always strive to be the best at everything, in my school work, in my sport and any other things that present a challenge to me. You mentioned about faking it, in some ways I don’t agree with this statement, I’ve always felt that being yourself and not acting in a way that’s uncomfortable for you is the best way to succeed, but sometimes throwing yourself in the deep end can improve self confidence in your abilities. Maybe it was the way I interpreted the article but I feel it could come across to some people as you have to try to be someone you’re not in order to be successful in life. However, I do love that no matter how much people brought you down, you carried on going and I feel that is extremely inspiring and motivational to me.

  • thompsonjm99

    Thank you for publishing this very interesting article! Criticism from other people isn’t the easiest thing to deal with. This blog could be very important to people who struggle with self-esteem and self confidence. This could be helpful when dealing with school work because we can always learn to not become discouraged when we fail at something and try hard to do better the next time. I might disagree that you can always “fake it” because people lose their emotions sometimes. Great article.

  • tyler

    This article really is thought provoking and inspirational! I could really relate but from a different perspective. I too run track, but I was one of the people that dreaded watching the mile run or the two mile because of how long and dragging it would be. Though it was a personal thought and I never said it to anyone, it is just interesting hearing your perspective since you were that dragging person in the race. I admire your willingness to try new things and be stubborn even if you were not the best at it. I stick to what I am good at, and tend to try new things I think I could be good at. This is a nice blog showing how you can overcome critcism, how to be confident in yourself, and how to take criticim and turn it into something positive. You showed that you never gave up and that is admirable. Your honesty in this article makes it that much better. You took the criticim very well, but what about someone who does not? What advice would you give to someone who is really affected by criticism? Thank you for sharing such a personal story, it really added a touch to the post.

  • Natasha Tynczuk

    The advice written within this article is something I can carry with me for my remaining years in school. I am currently studying biology and I hope to get into veterinary school after I graduate here, but I always fear the rejection that might come with the applications. What am I supposed to do if I don’t get accepted? This career I have chosen is all I’ve ever wanted to do. I find myself thinking about this way more than I should while I should really be focusing more on how I am going to make it happen. I look at all of my professors and wonder if they had the same worries at my age. I am starting to realize that when the time comes, everything will fall into place, whether it’s how I imagined it or not.

  • Brad Vogel

    Personally,I question whether one can truly “fake it until they make it.” Why? Because I don’t believe you can fake passion for what one believes/desires. It’s one thing to have talent, but if one does not want it, he/she will not succeed in it. However, there are some of those who want it like one would not believe but are often outperformed by those who have natural abilities that just can’t be taught. This is why I question the concept of “fake it until you make it.”

  • CoachDavis24

    This article demonstrates that hard work and determination can conquer. A lot of people struggle with this everyday. I am not the most intelligent student at UWW, but I managed to get on the deans list the past three semesters. Am I faking it? Well I wouldn’t like to call it faking it, but I would like to call it work my butt off. Calling it faking it would simply say that I didn’t deserve to be on the deans list. However, I do understand the concept of “fake it until you make it”. I will continue working hard and endure failure till reach my goals. When I do make it I can say that I made it, not by faking it, but by hard work and perseverance.

  • warnlofjc20

    I’m not sure if I agree with the “fake it till you make it” attitude just because to me that implies that you aren’t really trying and you’re hoping that whatever you’re trying to fake will just fall into you lap with no effort. In school especially I’ve tried to “fake it” and it didn’t work out well at all. I do understand the overarching message of this article though which is to keep doing what makes you happy and not to listen to what other people tell you that you can’t do, which is a really important message to everyone, myself included. Thanks for posting!

  • earose14

    I absolutly love this article. It simply shows that anyone can do anything if your put your mind to it. This may be a little extreme for others but what you did is something most people cant do. It’s very helpful for others to think about the way they live there lives. Faking it may not be the best way to go about it but trying until you succeed is something to live by. One question is though, how did you fake it so much and deal with being rejected constantly? This was a very ispirational article, thanks for sharing it!

  • SasCas116

    Thank you for posting such an inspiring article! At first I was a little skeptical about your punch line “Fake It ‘Til You Make It” because I don’t agree with that attitude. However, you presented it in a strongly relatable way. When I was reading this I thought, oh my goodness poor Ann, but as you continued I picked up that your determination roots from rejection! That’s such a strong skill to have! I, too, have a stubborn side to me when it comes to rejection! This blog is useful because it inspires individuals all over to never give up on their true dreams. I do have to disagree about the “Fake it ‘Til You Make It” title because in my eyes, you’re not faking it! You are giving 100% and pushing forward! If you’re simply “faking it” then you’re not giving it your all, instead you’re slacking and hoping for the best.

  • SasCas116

    I would have to disagree with you on that. I believe that if you’re that determined to make it to the top then your effort will reflect on that. If you’re “faking it” to the top, then how much do you really desire it?

  • SasCas116

    Thank you for such a great post, I totally agree with you! I have two sisters that constantly try putting my self esteem down by what I eat or how much I eat. It seems like siblings are an uncomfortable surveillance that affects you. I love running too, so I can totally relate to you Alex!

  • Steffiheuer

    This article really spoke to me in many ways. I am a gymnast and the sport of gymnastics is never forgiving. We fall on our face, fail over and over, and perfection can never actually be obtained. I quit gymnastics the summer before I became a freshman in high school. I tried to play soccer, which I was not half bad, and ran cross country. I absolutely sucked at running long distance. I had a nice mile time but other than that nothing. As a senior in high school I decided that I should try to do gymnastics in college. I had always said I would be a college gymnast and I was not letting that dream go. I went into the gym to train and all I ever heard was that I was crazy and after quitting for three years it was not possible for me. I failed many of times over the year, but I never gave up. I ended up making it all the way to nationals and was offered a spot on the UW-Whitewater Gymnastics team. My question now for you is how amazing was it to hear that you finally made it? I know that when I finally got to where I wanted to be I was one of the happiest people. The article is just a reminder that you should never give up and always want better. At least that is what I received from this post. Thank you for this beautiful reminder and sharing your story.

  • Sam Kuchenreuther

    This article should be read by everyone who is going through a struggle in their life. Whether the struggle be with school, work, or personal life. I have played sports my whole life and multiple times I have wanted to give up but I didn’t. I am so glad that I never did because the feeling of not giving up is better than quitting. I wouldn’t exactly call it “faking it” but I understand your point. Thank you, Ann!

  • HelpHealth002

    I really like this blog post because I can see myself in it! I ride horses and when I started competing in the equestrian world, I didn’t do well at all. I felt like everybody was a better rider than myself, which a lot of them were, so I made it my mission to become like them. I knew that if I stuck with it and pursued my dream, I could win. I continued to train every week until the next year of competitions and I ended the season as Reserve Champion of my division. Hard work really does pay off. I believe this blog can help anybody going through a rough patch, and think that they aren’t good enough. If you want something bad enough, go for it! You’ll surprise yourself. I know it can be hard in the meantime though, when you feel like your not good enough for the world. What do you recommend people doing if they are constantly failing at their goals and feel too hopeless to even try to “fake it”? Thank you Professor Garvin!

  • Ananda Conlon

    It is always inspiring to hear the story of someone who failed, but went against the norm and continued to preserver. EVERYONE fails. The only difference is in what and to what extent. Everything ends up working out in the long run. It may be that you achieve the goals that you made, or that you were able to open your eyes to a completely different skill. It all ends up working out.

  • Ryano313

    I really liked this blog and thought it was very inspirational. After reading this blog I looked back on my life so far to see if I had any similar moments. Going into my junior year of high school, a football coach of mine told me that I was going to be to small to play wide receiver. This made me very upset, but on the other hand, it motivated me to go out there and give it my all. After all my hard work, I started that year and my senior year. It felt so good and rewarding to prove my coach wrong, who in the end gave me an apology for not believing in me.

  • mankobj22

    Your story is a great example of how failure+failure+failure=success! Developing the skills needed to become a tri-athlete and a published author are hard enough on their own without the constant chirp of people telling you that you did not have the adequate skill set needed to succeed in those venues. The quality of never having given up on your dreams no matter how big or how small that they were is both admirable and inspiring. I think that we should all strive harder to pursue our passions while we still can.

  • hirthjp18

    It was great reading this article because this is a lesson everyone can learn from. Many people have gone through this and its a shame if they stopped trying. To ignore what people say and keep on pursuing. If you truly do enjoy what your doing and continue to work your hardest success does come. My past experiences have proven to me that hard work and resilience will produce success. Sometimes you have to believe your the best to become the best, but then again you could call that just believing in yourself. This was a great Article.

  • Nicole Myers

    This is a great story for those whom are feeling down with something that they work so hard at doing. I find that your story telling draws me into the conversation rather than pushing me out. I think that people can better relate to the story telling and you are good at it. Sometimes things take time and so do people.I used to be an athlete myself but I definitely was not the athlete that was good at everything right away. I had to give it 150% when others could slack off. Just because something does not work out right then and there, practice makes perfect and you can’t be good at everything. I really enjoyed this article!

  • knapprl17

    This article hit home for me. I am an athlete who will put in 110 percent and still not be the best one on the field, but I continue to go out there and give everything I have to be the best that I can. I know that with every practice I will get better and get to where I have to be. This helped me realize that with every mistake I make I am paving the way towards the success stories I will have in the future. It also helped me realize that I need to believe in myself no matter what a coach, teammate or friend says to be. If I believe in myself I know that I can achieve the goals I set.

  • Garrett Nelson

    Thanks for great story Professor Garvin! Not only inspiring, but it gives great advice for all of us striving to be the best we can be in whatever field (sport or profession) we are working/studying in. As a former student athlete, I know the struggles of being denied and rejected to the point where quitting felt like the only option. Sometimes it is good to know when enough is enough of one thing, which may contradict your point in the story, but in another way it can open doors for new beginnings and passions that maybe one does not always see right away. Don’t get me wrong, I strongly believe following a passion is something everyone should do without giving it up right away. Putting in the time, having the fortitude, and self-esteem are all key elements that everyone should focus on when following a passion. I also believe it is good to have an open mind and accept when something may not work out. There will always be other opportunities that come along to drive you forward towards your passions. A question for Professor Garvin, how did you figure out what your passion was and what you wanted to be when you grew up? Also, what were some of the biggest struggles you faced, besides rejection, when attempting to “fake it to make it?” Thank you.

  • ReneeKirch19

    Thanks so much for sharing your story, it was truly inspiring! It’s so nice to read something that is so real and honest. Nowadays I feel like we are constantly being pressured to not only do our best, but BE the best. And to be honest, most of the time my best is not the best, but it’s the best I can be. While reading this, I loved how I could feel the passion you have in everything that you, and that passion is definitely contagious to your readers. The concept of “faking it till you make it” is such a genius idea. Being able to keep getting up after being knocked down several times is one of the strongest things a person can do. Your own story has made me feel a greater sense of strength in the things that I do and the goals that I have. How did you find the motivation to keep running after your coach asked you to stop? What thoughts were going through your mind when you heard that? Personally I would have felt horrible if that happened to me; so I look up to you for being able to keep on going.

  • Skowronssj06

    Thank you for sharing your story and assuring me that I am not alone. I can relate to your story not through athletics but academics. I am a pre-med student who is very, very nervous about getting into medical school. I have to pass all these tests and pay off all these loans. I always have this thought in the back of my head saying, “What happens when you don’t get in?” But even though that thought will not go away, I have to just keep trying my hardest. Failure and embarrassment are a part of life and it happens to everyone. When it does happen, don’t give up- keep trying- fake it ‘till you make it.

  • Trista Radloff

    I am a psychology major and have also heard that faking happiness can inturn make you happy! It’s truly amazing what the brain can do! So from your articles, if you remain stubborn and keep faking it you may eventually become good at whatever it is your faking. I mean with practice anything is possible!

  • thomas kearney

    I really admire your dedication. It must have been hard being rejected over and over for track and as being a writer. You are very courageous, because facing so much defeat a normal person would have gave in to all the negative peer pressure. I thank you for giving such a courageous story. My question for you is when you were faced with defeat over and over again what kept you going? Was it you wanting to prove other people wrong?

  • sgawinski

    The persistence that you display in this article is definitely inspiring. It’s so easy to be rejected or denied and just give up and tell yourself “okay I tried, but I give up now.” But it’s true that if you fake your confidence, your happiness, or whatever quality it is, it’ll definitely help you develop these qualities. I really like how you didn’t care what anyone thought, and didn’t care what anyone else wanted, you still went out and did what you were focused on doing.

  • Tracy_Werner

    You say that you’re stubborn, but I call it persistent. I admire you for sticking to what you love and not giving up no matter what. I don’t think I have that same dedication. I am definitely stubborn, but if I was rejected time and time again, I think it would get to me and I might internalize that rejection. How were you able to keep trying and not let the rejection tear you down? Was it the possibility of success? I need to start being more persistent in the things that I am passionate about no matter what anyone else tells me about it. Thanks for the article! It is very encouraging.

  • Jack Delabar

    I don’t think that I’ve ever thought of it in that manner, Ann. I know a lot of people who have found that thing that they’re naturally good at and stuck with it and I also know a lot of people who quit in the face of adversity. I don’t think that I know many that have been bad at something, told they’re bad at it, but keep trying until they are good. I supposed I myself am guilty of this in a few areas and it requires a huge amount of confidence, whether its false or not. I don’t think that every individual has that kind of confidence and level of perseverance in them, but for the ones that do, this would be a great read for them! Thanks Ann!

  • Jack Delabar

    I think that by “faking it”, you get to be around “it” more and therefore learn more skills. Whether its watching those ones who are naturally talented, or even talking with the ones that aren’t, just being around the given activity can help tremendously.

  • Mitch Sween

    Thanks for this post Ann.

    I believe in the values of perseverance but I don’t really think faking something is the greatest way to become happy. I don’t believe passion and profession are synonyms. It’s great to be ambitious about the job you have but sometimes you should pursue what you are gifted at or talented at rather than going against the grain of your DNA. When you consider living your life like this rationalization needs to play a part.

  • Jessica White

    Fake it till you make it. You make it seem so logical and yet it could easily be one of the hardest challenges that someone could face. Essentially you could apply this to any dream that a person may have. Even if someone has a talent for the something, it can still be a challenge to make it in the “big leagues,” if you will. My question would be, how long is long enough when you are trying for something? Would you have continued running if you hadn’t discovered your talent for writing? Thank you for sharing your story

  • Daniel Preuss

    Thank you for your post! This article is true in every way in the sense that when you get by in life through manipulation, who you are as a person becomes strained and you’re ability to succeed on your own becomes more and more difficult. It’s almost as if you’re living a fantasy life and while although you may be happy at some point, it will eventually all change. This article is useful to anyone who may find themselves living this sort of life.

  • Nathan

    Thanks for the article! I think that it is awesome that people told you you couldn’t do something and then you went and did it! That is very inspiring and it makes me think that it doesn’t matter what people say. I don’t understand why people were so negative towards you, but it is awesome that it changed you.

  • danac501

    Thanks for writing this article! Your stories are very interesting to read! How you feel about admiring people that can toss and catch a ball I feel the same way about writers! I love how writers have an idea in their head and just run with it. I will fake being a writer until I can become a good writer because right now writing is a big difficulty in my life. Don’t you think you need some sort of skill though to fake it?

  • Camillewuensch

    Love the end quote!! This article makes me want to never give up on any dreams that I get. You tried and tried even though people told you to stop. It’s very insporational and makes it seem like anything that you are given or try out in life can not knock you down. I know that I’m not a big fake it person. Ounce I’m told I’m bad at something I give up and find something new to do. This article really makes it so that you should never give up and just keep trying no matter what everyone says.

  • Taylor Schulz

    This article really stuck out to me. I get embarrassed easily, and one of my biggest fears is rejection. But after reading this post, I got to thinking. Reading about how all of that embarrassment and rejection got you to where you are today gives me a new outlook on the whole faking it concept. Giving up clearly is not the best option once you fail, and beating yourself up about it just wastes time that could have been spent trying again. So thank you for writing this article and forcing me to take a better outlook on failure!

  • I have actually been applying the quote “fake it until you make it” to my life for many years now, and I also can relate to the feeling of rejection and embarrassment. For example, throughout my gymnastics career, I have run into many situations where others would make comments about how I was not good enough (I had a coach call me “mediocre” when I was younger, and that comment left a huge scar on my self-confidence) and certain obstacles tried to persuade me to just stop. However, sometimes you just have to keep telling yourself that you’re good enough, you’re strong enough, and it doesn’t matter what others say about you… one day you will make it. And that is exactly what I had to do. After years and years of faking it and pushing through, I was able to build up so much intrinsic motivation that the opposing comments of others didn’t seem to faze me. And now that I am in my fifth year of collegiate gymnastics, I have proved to them, and more importantly to myself, that I am good enough, I am strong enough, and all that matters if that I continue to believe in myself.

    A couple quote that, I believe, can relate with the message of this article are “If you have never failed, you have never tried anything new” and “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” In my opinion, everyone should experience some form of failure or rejection. How else can you learn from your mistakes and develop perseverance and determination? I believe that it is through times of rejection and embarrassment and failure that you become a stronger person.

  • Theresa Fitzsimmons

    Thank you for sharing this story. When you are speaking to us in class I can tell you are one of the most successful people I have ever met. That’s why I feel this information is very useful to me, and especially after I graduate this year. I really hope to succeed as a social worker. I have used this information before when I was in high school. I did distance track and cross country. My twin sister and I were the worst on the team but by our senior year we did a lot better. In cross country I ran in a few varsity meets my junior year and by senior year I ran in the varsity conference meet and got to go to sectionals. At the sectionals meet I did terrible but just getting to run in it made me happy enough. Eventually I made it as a runner but now I hope to succeed with a career. I don’t disagree with anything you are saying I just wanted to ask, is it possible to sometimes not be able to fake it to make it?

  • ReneeBinder

    I really enjoyed this story. It is awesome to hear about others success stories to serve as inspiration. I am going through a bit of this right now with my job search. I graduate in December and I am looking to get a HR position. I am worried because I haven’t had a HR specific internship like most people have. My internships have related to retail and customer service. I think once I land a job if I keep trying, keep learning and never give up I will be successful eventually.

  • Charles Fischer

    I have to agree that it does help to fake it until you make it. That idea is a very similar idea that Dale Carnegie had said “if you want to be enthusiastic you need act enthusiastic” to me it means even if you don’t feel mentally well act like you are fantastic and as you fake it you will pick up the attitude and then you will be. I do this all the time at home and especially in school as I feel overwhelmed trying to keep up with classes, and working three jobs.

  • Chris Williams

    Great article Ann. I think it applies to the majority of people and my self. I know I have gone through this numerous times. Dealing with rejection is tough, but it’s a mental toughness that helps you get through the hard times. This article really applies to people once they get out of undergrad and have to face real world problems and bosses or coworkers who evaluate them. I think if you keep your priorities in order not get caught up in “stalking old boyfriends or collecting ceramic cats” then that helps tremendously. Do you feel you have to “fake it” more now or earlier in life?

  • znazarzai1

    I truly enjoyed reading this article and can strongly relate to your experiences. I took organic chemistry three times. Despite the repeated efforts, I never received the “A” i was striving for, but with each repetition of the course, I learned just a little bit more content. That growth was worth the pain of showing up to the first day of class three quarters in a row. At the end, I realized that perhaps O Chem was never going to be my area of expertise, but I knew that I could at least have a basic understanding of the principles as I continued to search for the subject I would be an expert in.

  • znazarzai1

    I agree! Persistence is key and will lead to fruition (sometimes more slowly than others). It is with persistence that we can overcome that tasks that seem the most challenging.

  • Abbey Stibbs

    I really enjoyed reading this article! Success does take time! I hope that one day I will be successful in my career. I am going to college to be a social worker, and I want to work with the elderly population. I hope that all my hard work in school pays off in the long run. I am really involved on campus, and I have a great GPA. I hope that these two things combined along with some experience will lead me to success. I have switched my major over and over again, and I was NEVER happy with my choice. I have finally found something that I enjoy, and hopefully that happiness along with my strong work ethic will lead to a happy life. I just know that I have to keep up the good work, and strive for what I want. I know that having the mindset that I can do anything I want will help me in the long-run! Thanks professor Garvin for the article!

  • Sam Kuchenreuther

    This is a good point, Brad. But when she says, “fake it until they make it,” I believe she is just trying to tell us not to give up. I’m not the best at a lot of things but I can accept that. What I can’t accept is not trying to be the best.

  • Sam Kuchenreuther

    I like the story as well. And agree with you that there are a lot of people who hate embarrassment and rejection. If there is someone who likes those two things than they need help. However, rejection is a part of life. So if you don’t like it, this is a great way of dealing with it. No one will ever get used to rejection, but you can get use to dealing with it and moving on.

  • Kyree Brooks

    I love this article because I can see Ann Garvin’s steps of maturing. Sometimes it takes someone to put you down and say you cannot do something to make a change in your life. I agree you must fake it to make it because you only learn more about yourself in the process. Rejection can bring your identity to a new place and provide you with more tools in other areas of your life. This article is a great triumph essay and I thank Ann for this amazing article.

  • Kobajr18

    Success is something everyone strives for, or should at least. This article tells a lot about your own determination to succeed through failure after failure. I don’t agree that you faked anything, though. You didn’t fake it until you made it, you stuck in their when most would give up and worked harder. To succeed in this world you will have to overcome challenges all throughout life. The important thing to take from this article is not to fake anything, but to just keep trying and working hard until you reach your goals. Great article.

  • Kobajr18

    Awesome comment! Sounds like you have gone through quite a bit of experimentation to figure out what it is you want to do. I have done the same throughout college and found what I enjoy doing and am working hard at it. Keep at it and you’ll be successful.

  • shackletka05

    Thank you for sharing! I found this article to be very inspiring as you explain your story and persistence in the things you were passionate about. I have done gymnastics since the age of four and have faced many difficulties as in proving people who claimed I was not capable wrong. I completely agree that if someone wants to work for something that they continue pushing forward no matter what speed bumps or negativity get in the way.

  • Steven Bichler

    Even if you hadn’t succeeded in terms of sales or publishing a book, you still succeeded in the part on how you persevered through many obstacles. I feel as that is something that needs to be preached more. Yes having success by being one of the one that does well is admirable but also persevering through obstacles that others would have fallen at should be considered just as much of a success.

  • d_millyy

    I also love this article and your comment. However, I can understand why Ann used the word fake it. Because she wasn’t considered an “athlete” or even a “runner”, but that didn’t stop her from pretending to be one! It’s just like life honestly, think of the programs to become a teacher. Most of them have a part of the program where you student teach, here you are pretending to be a teacher, aka you are a fake teacher. Then, because you faked it and got the experience and the feel of it, you realize either that you love it, hate it, are good at it, or it’s not for you. I think when you read this article you can’t think of the word “fake” as a negative term, think more pretend. Honestly, I think everyone should pretend to be a lot of things, because this can open people’s eyes too, gain experience, and open new doors. Have you ever pretended to be something you would consider yourself not to be?

  • James

    Perseverance is admired by everyone that I have ever known, its just one of those human traits that everyone likes in a person. My own story along these lines is still be written, this is great to hear from somebody else that it actually works.

  • Shaquille Boswell-Downey

    I don’t agree with this statement, I’ve always felt that being yourself and not acting in a way that’s uncomfortable for you is the best way to succeed, but sometimes throwing yourself in the deep end can improve self confidence in your abilities. Criticism from other people isn’t the easiest thing to deal with.

  • Catey Navarro

    Yes! Failure is inevitable and I think we all need to accept that. But the fact that we are failing means we are trying in some instances? If you dont get something published yes, that sucks but you wrote it didnt you? And you sent it in. That is a lot farther then some people get and that needs to be recognized.

  • I really enjoyed reading this article. I cannot say that I know exactly where you are coming from though. I have generally been good if not great at ALMOST everything I have put my mind to. But this blog reminds me of something I heard a while ago. Apparently, if you do something, anything, for 10 years, you will have mastered it. Even if it is writing blogs about your feelings or trying to be the best person you can be. I will reflect more on this article and learn to be more persistent in things that I want.

  • JeremyWahl

    Thanks for the article,and good story. I have always been told the old saying that you have to stay with the things that you love. I’m glad the old saying came true for you. I think it is important to know who you are and not worried about trying to impress others. Self confidence can go a long way.

  • B Keng

    This was a great article and touching story. I wasn’t always good at team games in elementary school, but soon you find something you are really good at. I found that teams that require individual success is what I was good at. Everyone has a calling and sooner or later it will come and you will find your true purpose in life.

  • Abbey Stibbs

    Thank you! I am registering for my last semester in college tomorrow morning! I am so nervous! I never thought that I would get this far! It is one of the best feelings in the world. I feel so accomplished. I am the first person in my family to successfully finish college besides my grandfather who has recently passed away. I cannot wait to be done with school and tackle the real world, and begin my life as a social worker! 🙂

  • LeiderGM20

    This article was fantastic. I found it to be really touching and had great advice! Faking it til you make it. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Alise Brown

    I like the idea of this article how you kept trying at something that made you happy and was good for you. Just because someone says you should give up doesn’t mean you should. There is something out there for everyone, you just have to find out what it is.

  • sauerm29

    I admire Dr. Garvin’s resilience and perseverance. It can be devistating to be told “you’re not good enough” at doing something that one enjoys. But I don’t think any of us would have the urge to pursue something that we’re passionate about, unless we were supposed to be doing it. Not everyone has the same drive and interests, so when someone feels inspired they should pursue it, regardless of what other people say. Because that initial inspiration could turn into something great one day.

  • Adam

    I completely agree. You should never let other individuals tell you what you can and cannot do, if you want something go and take it! Others will always try and get in your way but just like Dr. Garvin did you have to put your head down and keep on going.

  • Kaylie Mae Kuhnke

    i was encouraged by this article and the fact that you tried tried and tried again. As an athlete i was told no a lot in sports. In high school i played varsity softball all four years until my senior year when we got a new coach and she told me i wasn’t good enough and was washed up and wouldn’t amount to much. but then i worked really hard and got a scholarship to a D2 school in North Carolina, and started. this article reminded me that i can do anything i want to as long as i keep trying and faking it til you make it.

  • Andrew Bliefernicht

    This article was flat out inspiring! I too feel the same way. When something goes bad, I go back at it until I improve! I’ve seen people succeed in positions and involvement and that makes me want to be like them. I may not be as good as them, but that will never push me away from continuing to try. Honestly, in your situation I don’t know if I could’ve taken the constant rejection. That just makes you and this article more amazing that you continue to prove everyone wrong.

  • Dannielle Wagner

    I admire your attitude Dr. Garvin! I feel as though I am easily discouraged, but I never give up. When I finally figure out what I want…I more often than not get it. I hate the feeling of rejection and it really hurts my heart when some one tells me that something I did or something that I created is no good. Some times I find it hard to fake it and I feel completely lost. What do you do when you self-esteem is seriously damaged and you want to get back to doing what you love, but it seems impossible?

  • Dannielle Wagner

    It is extremely hard to keep on keepin’ on when you get told you aren’t good enough…but I think it’s about doing what you love, even if people feel the need to drag you down. My heart breaks when I get told that a piece of my art isn’t that great or that a paper that I wrote is lacking in inspiration. I guess the only thing you can do is keep trying until you make something of yourself.

  • Leahrebout

    Your blogs are always so fun to read! I am so inspired by this article. The fact of how brutally honest people’s thoughts about your efforts were and you continued to keep going to pursue your dreams is amazing. Now knowing that you have become a published author it shows that we can do anything we want. Thank you for sharing your stories!

  • Slepicka12

    i totally agree with you about pursuing your dreams. even when life brings you down there is always something that will turn it around and make things better.

  • Slepicka12

    I totally agree! you don’t have to let something get to you if your doing what you love.

  • Kenzi Weidman

    I completely agree with you when you say that people whom succeed inspire you to be like them, even if you know you might not be as good as them. It is always good to have a role-model to look up to; someone that shows you how to succeed and gives you something to work for. Great point!

  • Kenzi Weidman

    Great additions to Ann’s article! I also completely believe that you need to continue after your goal no matter what might come in your way to stop you. Persistence is key, and if you constantly keep your goal in mind and don’t give up, odds are you will succeed (as long as that goal is realistic by some means).

  • Kenzi Weidman

    I somewhat agree with you, only on that part where you say “I don’t believe passion and profession are synonyms.” I like how you point out that sometimes you need to go for the job that you are “gifted at or talented” because I also believe that. This relates to me in a sense that I love learning about health and fitness and living a healthy lifestyle. Although, I believe this is a passion of mine, I am not pursuing it as my bachelors degree. I am better in the Business field, which is why I am pursuing that as my profession, but that doesn’t mean I can’t still have health and fitness be my passion. Good point, although some people are lucky enough to be “gifted or talented” in their passion. For those people, I envy them.

  • Schudakp21

    I am truly impressed you kept running even after your coach told you not to. I know i am the kind of person that if someone told me i am no good at it then i would stop immediately and get down on myself. I wish i never cared what people said and just did whatever i wanted regardless of people’s thoughts. I will try to remember your story whenever i come across an impasse in my life. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Cossioj14

    I like this article. Its important to never give up and keep trying. That is what we preach to our youth and we need to live by that and from your story thats exactly what you did. Its important to show what we can do and maybe prove a few people wrong along the way.

  • Nicole Myers

    Good for you! I think that it is very important to keep going even it one person tells you that you can’t. You must have a lot of drive which is so awesome. You can always do whatever you put your mind to and work as hard as you can.

  • Nicole Myers

    Totally agree. You must have a strong personality to keep going and keep proving to others that you can accomplish something that others think may not be possible. I know for me when someone tells me I can’t I push myself to keep going.

  • Leahrebout

    Exactly, just got to keep on keeping on :). It is obviously pretty hard sometimes but we just need to keep our head up and never give up like Ann said, anything’s possible.

  • Kobajr18

    Thats awesome and you should feel very accomplished! Looks like everything is going to work out for the best. Just remember to pass on the things you’ve learned in college to those that you work with. They could use your input!

  • Kobajr18

    Well said. Usually whenever I immerse myself into something I don’t think of what I’m doing as faking it. With this being said, I can see now why she used the word she did. I think everyone at some point in life has to fake it until they make it. To answer your question, I suppose I have. In the summer I worked with a high school football team and implemented an agility training program. While I had previous knowledge on the topic, I had no idea how the kids would respond to the workout. It never crossed my mind that I was in a sense faking it until I made it, but that’s exactly what I was doing.

  • hicksjd11

    I think this article makes a good point. Too many people give up before they ever achieve their goal. If you’re able to fake it while still putting in effort, eventually you will find success.

  • d_millyy

    Thank you for your comment and that is an excellent example! I think “Faking” gets the wrong vibe to it. Faking can actually be a good thing because it’s a way to gain experience, put yourself in someone’s shoes other than yours! What about internships or your first job out of college? I believe we will all do a little faking because we will be trying to use what we learned in school in our knew job where we need to seem like experts on the topic, and then eventually you really do learn it and become good at what you are doing. I raise another question, how important do you think experience is in life? Especially connecting it with “faking it” and trying something you are not familiar with.

  • Miggz13

    Thank you,

    You are a great teacher and wise teacher to me. God made everyone unique and different in our own ways. No one has the right to tell you what you should not do, because in the end you have become something great to your students. You are our mentor and I will cherish your lectures for as long as I can. To remind myself that nothing is impossible and that Fat burns in the flame of a carbohydrate.

  • Miggz13

    It not just only that give up, its that people tend to be lazy and would rather spend their time doing something else other being healthy. With that kind of mode people will struggle later on in life and would just want to put things a side rather than to figure things out themselves.

  • Miggz13

    My father has always been telling me to finish strong in school. He does not want to see me work with my hands. What he wants to see me do is work with my head. Education is very important to us and once we gather important information. We can then use it to our advantage to spread our knowledge to future children or students. That way we can provide children what is right and what is wrong.

  • Miggz13

    I think her lectures are more fun, exciting, and entertaining. She is always full of energy and I am sure that she keeps the class awake especially since it is a morning class. I look forward to her lectures. On that note if you believe in tomorrow and put yourself out there, you can naturally obtain your strength and achieving your future goals.

  • Miggz13

    With rejection we learn how to approach what we did wrong to improve our selves. We as people can feel weak. Alone, and feel nothing but insecurity; that’s why we have friends, and that’s why we have family. We walk together in order to live a strong life. The minute you think of giving up, think of the reason why you held on so long and smile, because in the end it what you think no one has the right to judge.

  • Miggz13

    This is a great article and it is very touching. I have been judge before from my family members. My uncles would always tell me things like Im to fat when I was younger. Now I am more muscular than before, it took a long time to get where I am at. With all the negative comments that my family gave me I use it as a fuel source and drive my ambition to continue to become healthier and stronger.

  • Miggz13

    Agreed self confidence has a major role in becoming successful in the future. This article gave me more thought to pursuing my dream to become a physical therapist even more. Thank you Ann!

  • Miggz13

    I completely agree with you, there’s nothing wrong with failure or rejection after all how else would we come to know our own weaknesses? And we need to know them, to become a stronger and gentler person.

  • Miggz13

    There is nothing wrong of being embarrass about anything. Stick your chin up high and tell yourself that you can do better next time.

  • Miggz13

    Very true what advise would you give to someone who continues to get rejected? Would you give them guidance to achieve their goals?

  • Leahrebout

    I agree with you I love going to her classes because of the energy she brings. It keeps us interested in the lessons. That’s a good thought! I think the main thing is you have to believe in yourself which sometimes is hard to do. Thanks for the comment!

  • Tom Ashmus

    Sometimes it is true, faking it is the best option. If the options were either fail, or fake it. I think most people would try and fake it until they failed. Some of the most successful people in todays age became that way because they faked it. Some people got rich and famous by faking their way through their careers. With the right charisma, this strategy is totally possible.

  • Tom Ashmus

    I agree, her blogs are always fun to read. It takes a strong person to hear all of those mean, but honest comments and take them constructively. Most people would take them as a sign of failure and quickly give up.

  • warnlofjc20

    Faking it is a good way to look at things. Even if you have no idea what you’re doing when you get started on something, if you just keep faking it you’ll eventually get the hang of it. Thanks for posting!

  • warnlofjc20

    That’s a good point and I honestly find myself doing that a lot where you’re not getting instant gratification and you’re too lazy/uninterested to see it through all the way to the end. Too many people just want instant gratification and walk away as soon as they realize that’s not how it works.

  • warnlofjc20

    Exactly! If you’re passionate about something it shouldn’t matter what other people tell you you can and can’t do.

  • warnlofjc20

    That’s a good point. I’m not sure if you could even really say “faking it” if what you’re really doing is sticking to it and not letting outside opinion influence your choices.

  • warnlofjc20

    I definitely agree with sometimes needing a little bit of a put down to get motivated. Now that I think back on it, a lot of the major changes that I’ve made in my own life have been because of a negative perception that someone had towards me.

  • warnlofjc20

    Congratulations! I was in the same boat as you for a while, switching my major like every semester and not finding anything that would hold my attention any longer than that. Having that personal drive and a positive outlook is a huge part of it though, without it you can’t get far at all.

  • Alise Brown

    The best way to learn it to have no idea what you’re doing and have to figure it out by yourself. I know I’ve have experiences where I had no idea what I was doing and everyone was busy or there was no one to ask. Figuring out problems and solution is the best way to learn how to do something best.

  • warnlofjc20

    Oh for sure. Going into something completely blind is one of the best ways to do it because you have no preconceived notions of it. You’re just a blank slate ready to figure it out.

  • LeiderGM20

    I agree. My mom has always been a health nut, and growing up I wasn’t a healthy eater at all and so she constantly put me on crazy diets. Lead to a lot of negative thoughts on nutrition until I started learning about it for myself.

  • Ryano313

    I agree with this comment, by faking it for a certain amount of time, you’ll eventually get the hang of whatever you are faking at. At the same time as faking it, you have to realize what is the right thing to do so you can start correcting it and then the faking will become just a natural habit

  • Caleb Franklin

    Thank you for this very interesting article. I think it’s great because almost every success story started with at least a little bit of faking it. The good majority of people aren’t incredibly successful at something when they first try it, but the people that truly want to be incredible will convince themselves that they can be. I think the number one thing in the way of your own success can often be yourself. If you can’t even convince yourself that you can do something, how are you going to convince anyone else?

  • Nicole Myers

    I like the way you said “Fake it till you fail.” I think that is exactly what people do because no one wants to fail at something. We just have to keep faking it until we know, there may be something else that is better for us out there.

  • Nicole Myers

    I was the same way. I am still am to be honest. I had a coach tell me that I would never be good at basketball because I dribbled and shot wrong because I was left handed. He didn’t give me the tools to fix it so how was I going to improve. Unfortunately, I wasn’t like Ann and couldn’t keep going after taking such a harsh comment so personally. Now I would probably acted different because I am a stronger person.

  • Nicole Myers

    Although, I still hate being left handed!!! He was certainly not wrong about how difficult it is!

  • Nicole Myers

    It totally is because I agree, mine has yet to be written as well!

  • Nicole Myers

    True! If you keep at it and keep practicing you will get better! Keep at and and remember the saying, “Practice makes perfect,” which is something we should always remind ourselves of.

  • Nicole Myers

    SO true. Sometimes some of the best business people come out of people making mistakes. If we make mistakes we are only building ourselves up as a person.

  • Luke Drumel

    Ann, you are remarkable for you’ve accomplished and you never took no for an answer. You may never have been the best or the most talented on the track team but you sure as hell were the most determined teammate out of all of them. It is truly inspiring to see you keep getting rejected and keep going till you got that yes.

  • hicksjd11

    I agree. Faking it can take us a lot farther than most people think. Appearing confident and knowledgable creates many opportunities.

  • Kobajr18

    I agree. Maybe the word I’m looking for is determination. Trying to stick to what you want to do instead of “faking it”. Simply being determined to get the job done, whatever it may be.

  • Kobajr18

    Phenomenal points. I think faking it can be useful in new environments such as a job or internship. For me experience is immensely important in all aspects of life. Most of the things I’ve learned have come from life experiences, not text books, and I believe that’s how it should be. With this being said, sometimes change is good. For example, the strength and conditioning field has professionals that have 20+ years of experience and still train elite athletes in an old school high impact format. With new research and methods that have come out recently I am curious to see the changes made in programs for these athletes and even more importantly, I am excited to see the progress that is made on the field because of these changes.

  • Austin Dorman

    I am the same way as you. If my coach were to say something like that, I would get down on myself and probably stop running. It takes a special person to persevere through that and continue to try and accomplish their goals.

  • Evan Hibbs

    Ann this was a very inspiring article, thank you! This blog is very useful because as college students many times people in our desired fields will try and weed people out to figure out who wants something bad enough. I think that’s what some of these people did to you by offering criticism, they were trying to see if you would quit and you didn’t, you faked it until you made it. What pointers would you give your past self that would’ve benefited your present self in becoming a better writer? Once again, thank you for the article.

  • Evan Hibbs

    I totally agree Caleb, if you continue to keep working at getting better, a person will get better. Time and experience is the crucial key to being confident and continuing to get better. Almost every successful person has a great story about failure as well!

  • warnlofjc20

    Yeah I think determination would be a much better way to put it. You would still be faking it up to a certain point but eventually that’s going to switch over to determination.

  • orvisbj27

    Wow Roland sounds like a real charmer. I have seen many teachers and coaches over the years that put down students and athletes. One of primary reasons I became a teacher and coach was the positive affect I could have on someone. I know I am probably ignorant for assuming having a positive affect on someone would be every educators motivation. However, thinking of my past mentors both good and bad I constantly remind myself to concentrate on the positive tools and pay little attention on avoiding the negative.

  • Eric H

    Thanks for the article. I think the most important aspect of this article is perseverance. Having the attitude to never give up on your goals and dreams will get you places someday. You might not strike gold right away but if you stick with something, good things happen. I also feel that people are afraid of failure. Once someone says you cannot do something great, people quit and try to find a new niche.

  • Eric H

    I agree with this. Thanks for the post. Faking sometimes is the best option because failure is often looked at as there is no way they can ever succeed at something. Failure ruins people and sometimes people get so disappointed and flustered that they completely throw away their dreams. At least by faking it, you already have a sense of accomplishment. You just have to fake it long enough to you are actually where you want to be.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    I agree so much with what you are posting. The point at which someone wants to quit or give up is the hardest part. Once you get over that little hump the rest is a landslide. It is so easy for me to say this because I have finally been able to say that I have done just that. I faked it till I made it, even though I had to fake it for a lot longer of a time than I thought I would have to. I continued and I strived to succeed no matter what It meant I would have to do and eventually I did just that. There are too many times when people think that it’s easier to just give up. Is living your life in regret really easier than just doing it. I would rather said I was successful at something even if I wasn’t the best at it, at least I tried instead of saying I don’t know because I didn’t give it a chance.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    “Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” – this is a quote that I think ties into her article as well as what your comment is preaching. When you fall down, you get back up again. You are the only person that can stop you from achieving greatness. The only thing getting in the way of doing what you want to do is you. There are often way to many times that people find reasons to not do something. I think if you spend more time and energy doing it, you will be happier than spending the time and energy not doing it.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    It’s really tough to keep going when everything and everyone around you is telling you to just give up. It takes a lot of inner strength to keep pushing when every part of you says stop. The light at the end of the tunnel is right at the tip of your fingers when you have reached that point, even though it seems likes you will never get there. It is so worth the energy and strength it takes into pushing through such tough times. Once you get through it, you can use that motivation to keep pushing the next time you hit another hump.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    Rejection is a scary and hurtful thing. That fear of rejection often makes people steer away from what it is they truly want. Something I have learned is that eventually the amount of things you are fearful for will lessen. The more you continue to strive to do those things that you are fearful of because of rejection, the easier it will be to accept if/when rejection approaches. Rejection is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is because rejection that creates such inner strength. You must learn to fail first, before you can succeed.

  • Slepicka12

    I couldn’t have worded that any better!

  • Dannielle Wagner

    Rejection is super scary and I think I take it way to personally most times…almost like its a reflection of my character or something. Thank you for being so encouraging Alyssa…I will have to look at rejection as a strength builder and let rejection build me up instead of tearing me down.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    I learned that from playing Rugby. I went in with absolutely no knowledge of the sport other than knowing I was allowed to tackle people. My first semester at Oshkosh I was filled with rejection and wasn’t allowed to show the kind of player I was. Then when I started here I used that motivation from my past at Oshkosh to prove to everyone here what I was all about. I could have quit rugby at Oshkosh and let them turn me away from the love I had for the game. Instead I used it to build me up.
    It’s hard not to take rejection so personal, but ultimately rejection is not a reflection of failure but ultimately is a reflection of growth.

  • Alyssa Schragen

    The battle is worth the fight just as long as you find that the end result was worth the battle… if that makes any sense to you.

  • Slepicka12

    that makes so much sense. Thank you.

  • Kelly Martin

    This article is very motivating. I love hearing the stories where you began at the bottom but worked your way up until you got to where you are now. Failure is a word that many people scare away from because it shows some sort of weakness but you proved that it does the exact opposite. Only strong people can move on from failure and become successful. Thanks for writing this article!

  • jennanb

    I really like the idea of this, I agree that persistence is key when you’re trying to learn something new…. But how do you know exactly when enough is enough, that you’re not cut out for faking something anymore? I just feel like you can only “fake” something so long before you realize you are trying to be something you are not. For example, you didn’t become a runner, you became a writer. How do we know that the thing we are faking is actually something we should do?

  • Kendra Larson

    I thought your story was very inspiring. I admire that even though you failed multiple times, nothing stopped you, and you never gave up. I think this story relates to not only me, but everyone else in the world for that matter. We all fail at somepoint in our lifetime, but failure is not the reason that we should ever give up. Failure is societies biggest fear. No one wants to fail trying to achieve their dream or ambition. If there’s one thing I’ve learned through the journey of life, it’s this: Everything happens for a reason. There’s a reason for everything. If you fail at something, it’s not the end of the world. Get back up and try again, until you succeed. Failure only makes us stronger. If you work hard enough, you can achieve anything. Thank you for sharing this Story Ann!

  • Sara Fuller

    The way that you kept pushing on and pursuing what you wanted to do even though positions of authority tried to shut you down is amazing. I think we lose great athletes everyday because bad coaches or teammates put other athletes down and try to push them out instead of trying to help them succeed. We could have lost the next Michael Jordan because a coach told that kid when he was in middle school that he would never be a great player and he quit. But seriously, who are we to tell someone they can’t do something. Use the doubt of others as fuel to propel yourself to the top.

  • Abby2017

    I like how you had perseverance. You kept trying and didn’t give up. I’m trying to have that mindset here at school. It is hard, but it can be manageable. People do worry about failure, but the strong and dedicated people are the ones that come out.

  • DuchAM21

    I really enjoyed reading this article. I think everybody has been told that they are not good at something, or told that they will never be able to succeed at it. It takes a lot of self motivation and determination to prove those people wrong. In the end, the satisfaction of proving those outsiders wrong is one of the best accomplishments, and not only is it a good feeling, but also makes you a stronger person.

  • AndreaOlsen22

    I admire the quote “fake it til you make it.” It is one I often say to myself when I am struggling. It is perfect because in most cases when we try something for a first time we are not “perfect” at it, but with time you can improve, depending how hard you work. When someone doubts you and what you can accomplish, it makes you want to work even harder because proving someone wrong is such a sweet feeling. I am inspired by the fact that you never gave up no matter how many times you were knocked down. We all fail at something every day, whether it’s little or big. Failure may seem awful at the time, but it may lead us in a direction we were unaware of. In your story, something great came out of the failure. It gave you a mindset of never giving up, and led you to your calling.

  • leeana liska

    You made a great point of losing athletes everyday whether it be because of coaches, rejection, or because of skill level. People are so quick to put others down if there is not immediate performance from the athlete. When did it become okay for another person to tell you and determine how successful you can be?

  • leeana liska

    While reading this article, a personal story immediately came to mind. In fifth and sixth grade I tried out for the high school feeder basketball team and got cut both times. It was not until my seventh grade year (and the third time i tried out) that I finally made the team. Back in fifth grade( at 4’10 and under 80 pounds) I was told I would never have the strength, height, or build to be a basketball player. I ended up playing all the way through my senior year of high school playing on the school team and tournament teams around the state and they are some of the most memorable experiences of my life. Similar to Garvin’s experience, I too was humiliated, rejected, embarrassed and rejected some more. I think many people struggle and have personal stories that are similarand need to push through them to be successful. The best things in life don’t come easy, but it’s the struggle and the journey there that makes these experiences great.

  • Taysia Justus

    I absolutely love the motivation from this article. Numberous times throughout my life I’ve had people believe I wasn’t good enough, but that never stopped me. One of my parents even had doubts about me pursuing college simply because nobody in my family had; and here I am 3 months from my college graduation. As you did, I was able to put the negativity behind me, and even more, I was able to let the negativity push me to do beyond what I knew I could accomplish. Simply because I love to prove people wrong!

  • BEATYSM25

    The thing I love most about reading Ann’s work is how I feel that I can hear and see her telling the stories as I read them. This is a funny article, yet contains such an important underlying message. “Fake it ’till you make it” is something my mom has always told me. However, as a perfectionist, I am the type of person that feels extremely uncomfortable in a situation where I don’t feel I am performing well, let alone up to par. I absolutely dread the feelings of the unknown and of potential failure, so when I encounter them (I find they typically go hand-in-hand), my first instinct is to sprint the other way. So when my mom would tell me to fake it ’till I made it, I would just scoff. Faking it was out of the question for me because I wouldn’t even give myself the opportunity with an unknown situation. But over the past few years I have found that it is ONLY in these moments of feeling uncomfortable that I learn and experience amazing things; where I truly live. I will never be good at everything, it’s just not realistic. And that’s something I have to continuously remind myself of. But I realize now that if I go through life only maintaining my perfect little box of what I know I can do well, I will be stuck static while life passes me by, giggling and pointing fingers at me. I’ve found that it is only when I embrace vulnerability that I achieve what I want, whatever that may be at a given moment. It’s not to say now that allowing myself to be uncomfortable and accepting potential failure is a walk in the park, but what I can say is that letting myself be vulnerable and giving myself the opportunity to “fake it ’till I make it” has opened up so many doors in my life that would have otherwise been locked up tight forever, doors that I may never have even known existed. Personally, I think that just giving yourself permission to fake it is the most important part. No matter what the situation may be and what comes of it, running, interviewing, etc., allowing yourself to fake it through uncertainty is what is most admirable.

  • Alexa A Dralle

    I really enjoyed this article because it is so extremely relatable. Growing up my mother put me in all sorts of recreational programs from baseball to gymnastics, and there was not a single activity that I excelled at. I was mediocre at best at all of them. I was also a very shy child who was easily discouraged and because of that, I quit almost every extracurricular I was involved in. If someone had been able to get this article through my head, and told me to fake it until i make it, maybe I would have eventually become better at sports and become confident with myself. though maybe pro athlete is out of my reach now, this “fake it till you make it” motto can still help me succeed in life.

  • Ashleigh Hartlaub

    I really liked this article! Also being told what I am not good at or what I thought I was good at I always kept trying. When it came to other things in school like writing or science I always gave up and maybe I should have taken this kind of aspect and should have kept trying even though I knew i was terrible. When someone pushes you down, standing back up and trying again is a good thing to live by.

  • FalkinerRR23

    You have had a lot of experience of people putting you down and telling you just to stop and that is just plain wrong. The fact that you kept pushing forward to achieve what YOU wanted to do and not what other people told you is amazing. I think everybody has been told that they are not good at something, or told that they will never be able to succeed at it in one point in their life or another. As for me, if someone told me that I would probably take a step back and second guess myself. It takes a lot of self motivation and determination and people should learn how to take negative feedback and turn it into positive motivation to prove people wrong.

  • caroleighp

    Wow! This is really inspiring! When I saw the title I immediately thought about how you’re supposed to dress for the job you want, not the job you have. What you wrote about though is more than that, it’s about fighting rejection and not letting anyone bring you down. It’s strange how stubbornness can be such an asset and when it is motivating you to try harder and not give up.

  • Sarah Kasiurak

    This is truly inspiring. Your story shows that others can achieve great things too if they just keep going. I am glad you never gave up! This reminds me when i was in high school and decided to join the cross country team. At first I did not enjoy it at all. I was not very good but wanted to be. After a lot of hard work I finally got the hang of it and got pretty good. I now run in college and would have never of guessed that in my future when I first started running. I think this article can give others motivation to do their best!

  • Jessica Peardon

    I especially like how you kept running even when they told you to stop. This was extremely important for your career. You were studying exercise psychology and now you are a health teacher. You cannot preach to someone to do something that you don’t even do. It doesn’t matter that you were not good at running. All that matters is that you were making your body better, stronger, and leaner every time you ran.

  • BastarKm06

    This is inspiring. I myself have just started to run track this year, for the first time in my life. I am not the star runner by any means, but I put a lot of effort in and I can see myself getting better!

  • Katelyn Vaughn

    This was an inspiring article to read. In my opinion, I feel that individuals today give up on their passions because they feel like they will be judged by others if they are not good enough, do not think they are good enough themselves, or they have been told that they are bad at what they do or enjoy (like how the track coach discouraged Ann from continuing track). in my opinion, if people spent more time building each other up and encouraging one another, you would be able to see more improvement and talent in those individuals. I am a woman who believes that if you put your mind to something and work hard for what you’re passionate for, you can achieve anything you want in life.

  • Garrett Nelson

    Agree with the statement you make in that if you put your mind to something and work hard then it will pay off in the long run, even if it does not happen right away. One thing I have noticed a lot with previous job experience is that the harder you work the higher expectation you build for yourself and from your boss or supervisor. Instead of them finding the good things you have been doing and contributing, they will start to just “expect” certain things from you. This can be taken in a negative or positive way, but ultimately gaining higher expectation for yourself is something that will be useful in the long wrong. Thanks for sharing!

  • GSonDUBS

    I LOVE THIS!!! I have heard about fake it till you become it before, but more importantly, you set and share a great example of passion, determination and self confident!! I love it!!! Thank you for sharing.

  • Emily Krueger

    I am truely inspiried by your story. I love your passion and drive to never give up and follow your dream of running. Also being apart of the track team even though other people were telling you should quit. In the end I fell this is a great example of passion, determination and self control. So next time someone tell me I can play a sport I will think of this great story and follow my dream just like you did.

  • Austin Felker

    Great quotes it is true for success often time people get lot in the money and dont think about their hearts. Also when i admire something i do try to become it as well since i was a white belt always told myself to act like a black belt.

  • milleram97

    This is great Ann, I didn’t know some of these things about you.
    It can be hard being in a world where there’s the ever-present “not good enough” clause hanging over your head, like you have some infectious disease or something.
    The crazy thing about that is that there IS something out there for everyone, in light of creative outlets, outlooks, jobs, and what ever else.
    And if you want something bad enough, to pursue it with all you got. Sure you may not become the “best” at one certain thing, but everyone has niches that make them better suited at one than another person because of who they are and how they can personally transform it.
    And if it doesn’t work out the first time…or the 50th…well if you want it bad enough you’ll find where you fit in the mix.
    Thomas Edison had over 1000 trials at making the lightbulb, something that has dramatically changed everything we know and own.
    So what’s holding you back from a revolutionary thought

  • rped

    This was a great article. I couldn’t agree more with the concept of faking it until you finally make it. A lot of life, in my humble opinion, is based on perception and relationships within that perception. When you are an entrepreneur, perceptions everything. You have to appear better than you really are, you have to appear bigger than you are at times, you have to appear calmer and more knowledgeable than you really are. Faking it is just part of the game. When you fake it, per say, you are allowing others the permission to view you in a different light. They can take away their initial judgments about you and/or or product and start to build on the next level. The article talks about just that. That success takes time, and a lot of self esteem…the part about faking it knowing that you will make it. Others can’t be confident in you or your product unless you are. Completely!!

    Great article.

  • Lindsay Jakubik

    I agree! I think everybody has been told that they are not good at something, or told that they will never be able to succeed at something. lot of self motivation and determination to prove those people wrong. In the end, the satisfaction of proving those outsiders wrong is one of the best accomplishments, and not only is it a good feeling, but you come out better off in the end.

  • Sara_Kay0316

    I have a lot of admiration for you. It’s really sad that people couldn’t accept you at face value but it’s inspiring that you showed the world your potential and your attitude to “never give up”. I think a lot of people lack that these days. An example that comes to my mind is art. A lot of college students say “I am not good at art and I hate it” but ask them the same question when they were in 3rd grade and they would have answered way differently. I think people just stop doing things they are told that they are not good at when in reality we should be trying until we succeed, even if that means applying the “thing” your not good at to a different part of your life as you did with running. (Running——>Writing——–>Success).

  • Kendra Larson

    I agree with what you said about trying until we succeed. I know people that have given up on something that they found a challenge, and when they go back and think about it, they are always wondering what if. What if I would of succeed if I tried again? Continuing to push forward and try again gets us closer and closer to what we want to accomplish in life. The journey comes with it’s challenges, but the key is to never give up, because someday, you will get to where you want to be.

  • Samantha Lavenau

    Great article! I agree that you should keep trying even if you fail the first time. (or second, or third) Everyone has different weaknesses, and strengths, but that does not mean you cannot be good at your weaknesses. When I grew up, I took pottery as an elective my senior year and was the worst in the class. I was so discouraged and wanted to quit. I knew quitting was not the option for me, so I spent after school and morning learning how to make pottery. Eventually I got the hang of it and was on the same level as everyone else. I went from a C to an A, and was so excited for myself. Just because you are not the best at something does not mean you cannot take more time and better yourself. Just keep trying, and great things will come your way!

  • struckml03

    I think you are right on saying that you should keep trying after you fail. Eventually you will get it. Plus if you fake it until you make it, that is telling yourself in your head you will make it and 9 times out of 10 when you tell yourself something in your head you believe it, so if you fake it until you make it, you will eventually make it. It is important to not give up. Believing in yourself can go so far. Once you accomplish whatever it is that you have been trying to do, you feel great! Dont lose hope. It WILL be worth it in the end. YOU will MAKE IT. Along the way it is a learning experience too, so you are gaining knowledge, wisdom, courage, experience, a lesson, whatever it may be. It motivates you to strive to be better.

  • McKenzie Foster

    I really enjoyed this article because I can relate. This is a cruel world and people will be constantly trying to put you down to better themselves. No matter how many times it takes you to succeed, do not stop until you get there. Because once you get to where you were going, it is one hell of a feeling and looking back, you can see all the people you proved wrong. So by all means, fake it until you make it! Failing in the process is perfectly okay, I would actually be concerned if you didn’t have a bump in the road, because when you fail you are learning. You learn from your mistakes and it only motivates you to succeed even more. If you are passionate about something and you want to succeed in something but people are putting you down and telling you, you aren’t good enough… SCREW THEM. Prove them wrong and fake it to make it!

  • catec18

    This reminds me of the quote, “whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” No matter who is telling you know you have to have some sort of belief that eventually you will make it. I like the way that Ann really showed in her story how much it takes to actually make it. And not only that, it has to be something you are passionate about. So many people I think loose sight of the end goal because they don’t have passion for what they are doing. They go for something because of the prize at the end not the journey within. I know that my career path isn’t the greatest, but I’m doing it because it excites me and I want to be good at it so badly! I think the key for me finding my passion was finding something that I liked the idea of, but was so bad at, but not caring that I was bad at it and wanting to continue so that I could get good at it.

  • Jessica Andrew

    Thank you for sharing this article! It is good that you at least tried running and kept with it even though people told you to stop. You are your own person and don’t like someone else tell you what you can and can’t do. I like trying new things, but if I don’t like it, then I am going to stop and say at least I tried. It is better to try than say I wonder how or if.

  • Jessica Andrew

    I agree! As long as you attempt something, you will be better in the long run. In the future you don’t want to be saying what if I would have done that. You tried it and know you don’t like it. Self motivation is a big part of this too. You can’t let others control what you want to do.

  • Jansscor16

    This is a great article, that definitely is a motivator. Its easy to give up on things that we are not good at, especially things we are told we are not good at. Finding the strength to keep going, and to work harder is hard to find. Knowing that not giving up can lead to success or success in other avenues is worth the hard work.

  • Jansscor16

    I like what you said about ‘dress for the job you want, not the job you have’, I can see how that fits in to the article as well. If we work hard for the things we love, and like you state, put our stubbornness aside, we will find success in some way.

  • Jansscor16

    You have a very good story that highlights the focus of Ann’s article. I like how you say ‘The best things in life don’t come easy’, working hard and dedicating time will lead to success and amazing experiences.

  • Lindsey Kessler

    This was the last blog I read out of all your blogs, and before reading this one, I already wanted to comment and say thank you for all the entertaining and wonderful blogs you’ve written, and that I’m sad that this is the last one I have to read. Very rarely do I get sucked into someone’s writing where I can’t stop reading it and want to read more. Your writing did that to me, and I wanted you to know that. I would love to read more from you. I want you to keep writing. I wish your blogs can be made into a book, and I would read it in a day.There were times where I felt that you needed to put a comma in your sentences in your blogs, but not having commas there just made me think that your writing style reflects who you are as a person.. not to get so bogged down on the little imperfections, and that imperfection is beautiful. I think it’s great that you kept running, even after finishing last in races in high school track. I know how humiliating that can be, and it takes a lot of strength to overcome those obstacles that can otherwise haunt you.

  • Radaya123

    My momma said it best: Act like you been there before.

  • Chelsea Haffele

    It’s true that many people don’t accept themselves or others for who they are. I like your art example. When we were little everyone loved everyone and was friends with everyone. When did we learn to be judgmental.

  • Ashley Gardner

    This blog was one of the most inspirational blogs I have encountered so far! It is so true. The fact that you kept trying and trying even with all that rejection…Kuddos Ann! The world is a crazy place, and everyone has different expectations and beliefs. Everyone has their calling out there, it’s why you were put on this earth. I am graduating this May, and I know I will be facing many challenges, but I will always think back to this blog and keep trying no matter how hard times get.

  • Anthony Davis

    This was a blog that made me think a lot and the fact of the matter is that the individual’s that come to a point in their lives that they succeed consistently at one point also failed constantly. There is no better way to succeed than knowledge and some people take longer than others do. Ultimately though the individuals that succeed also are not quitters.

  • Anthony Davis

    I completely agree and I feel that success is a choice. No matter what you do or where you go people will always look down on you if you are working hard and you need to learn how to ignore those people and make your own choices and opportunities for success.

  • Jessica Peardon

    I am not an athlete either, but you can’t get better unless you try. At least you tried. And maybe you didn’t benefit the team but running sure benefited you. Also, it was just high school and sports then are suppose to be fun. We make everything way to competitive these days.

  • milkienr18

    i think that this is actually true. If you fake it that you know what your doing in anything eventually with time you figure it all out and are able to do it. You might not be good at what ever you are faking but at least you came to a point where you think you made it. I think this is the most true when trying to be happy in bad situations. You have to tell yourself you are happy and soon enough you will forget everything thats making you unhappy and eventually you will be happy.

  • Austin Jones

    faking it until you make it is something that has never crossed my mind. but it makes sense! if you act and hold yourself to a certain standard, you eventually accept that standard as an everyday thing.

  • wegener61

    I agree that everything is very competitive in today’s day and age, but I think the competition is what drives us to be better at whatever we are doing. Sure, you can join a competition-less fitness class, but it seems to me that the competition of sport is what keeps us involved and keeps the attendance low in those classes.

  • Colin Hickey

    This is a very relatable thought when it comes to my life. I also am a pre-med student and all of these thoughts are at the back of my mind as well. I really like how the article says to keep trying because eventually you will make it. As scary as it is to fail and get back up, it will be worth it if you keep trying.

  • Kayla Martin

    This is a great article. Fake it until you make it is what everyone should do! I wasn’t the best swimmer when I started out I couldn’t sprint as fast as other kids. I had to work hard to become the sprinter I am I am a natural born distance swimmer who learned to sprint. I practiced hard. I swam on relays. I faked it until I made it! and I’m proud to say I made it to nationals!

  • barema28

    This concept is something that I need to implement in my life. Not only faking it until I make it, but also when I’m told that Im bad at whatever it may be, or that I won’t be good at it, continue to do it until I am good at it and can prove those people wrong. Somethings don’t come to everyone as easily, but just giving up at the first sign of criticism is something that I personally need to work on. Pursue your passion, no matter what. Who cares if you’re awful at it, own it.

  • MattDennert

    I nevver thought that faking something until it acctually becoes you would actually work so I might have to try it for myself and see if it does acctually work.

  • RadebaugVP02

    This is something I’ve always been good at. I never give up and even when I’m pushed down I get right back up. Believing you are good at something, maybe even the best at something, builds up that self confidence and actually makes you better. It’s an interesting concept but I honestly believe in it.

  • JeremyWahl

    You definitely have to fake it to you make it. ive always been told i was no good at golf. i was always told i dont drive the ball far enough to play with the long hitters. i worked on my game a ton. didnt necessarily hit the ball farther but i hit the ball straighter and helped my high school team make it to state.

  • Elaminsj25

    This article is definitely motivating. I’m going to be graduating from college soon and I honestly have no idea what I’m going to do with myself. I told this to one of my mentors and all they told me to do was to stay positive. She said “If your thoughts might become your reality, you might want to be careful what you’re thinking.” That quote has stuck with me every day since. When I’m having a bad day or feeling discouraged, I think positive thought and keep it moving. I would definitely consider myself “faking it until I make it.” I just pray that I do actually “make it” at some point in time.

  • Erin

    I think faking it until you make it is a good way to become successful. Your story was motivating and fun to read. It is impressive that you were able to push through all of that criticism because some people are not able to do that as well. A friend of mine always says its not about when you fail, its about how you come back from failing and I think that can relate to your thoughts on faking it until you make it. Even though you aren’t good at something just keep trying and naturally something will come of it. Either it will be a learning experience or could lead you to exactly what you are meant to be doing.

  • Erin

    That is awesome that you are able to get through those times. In some situations that has been hard for me. I to believe that if you believe in yourself and really think you can accomplish something then it shouldn’t matter what other people think. Finding your own confidence and learning how to use it to your advantage is so important.

  • Sarah Reynolds

    This article is a real motivator and probably my favorite so far. I think that it is great that you never gave up on something you truly enjoy even though people do you to quit. I think a lot of people give up on things they enjoy because someone has told them they aren’t good enough. This has happen to me before, I was put on the practice squad for my volleyball team in high school my sophomore year basically because I was not good enough for “their standards” to play on the actual junior varsity and volleyball at the time was my favorite sport, I quit because one person said I wasn’t good. I wish that I would have stuck it out and proved them wrong. I should have faked it until I made it. I think this is something a lot of people should consider when someone tells them they aren’t good at something.

  • Kent Miehe

    Thank you for sharing! This just goes to show that if you really set your mind to something, you can achieve what you want to achieve. When you get rejected from something, it really says a lot about someone whether or not they keep going with it. Success is usually gained after many failures, Failing just makes you better at what you failed at. You gain experience from your failures and you can better yourself from that. Also, I think that if you really enjoy doing something, nothing can get in your way of doing it. If you have the passion to want to do something, you can do whatever it is you set your mind to. Thanks again for your opinion on this topic!

  • Kent Miehe

    I totally agree! If you have the passion and the mindset to become whatever you want to become, you start to truly believe that you can do it. Having those positive thoughts can have a big impact on your future. If you get to a point in your life where you aren’t sure what to do next, that mindset of believing you can achieve your goals can have countless positive outcomes with it. Keep it up, and thanks for sharing!

  • Kent Miehe

    I agree with your opinion. When people tell you you are bad at something, instead of quitting, it should motivate you to want to improve. And if you love doing what you’re doing, it shouldn’t be hard to keep going and strive to want to be better. Using other people’s criticism is a great way to become better at whatever it is that you do. Gaining that experience from people that doubt you can be used as intrinsic motivation, and staying with it will pay off in the end. Thanks for sharing!

  • Kent Miehe

    I totally agree! If you keep telling yourself that you’re going to make it, it becomes a habit and a permanent mindset. Over time, you will finally convince yourself to do whatever it takes to do what it takes to become better and to achieve your goals. We never know what we are capable of unless we put our minds to something and never give up. If we want to end up somewhere, we just have to keep telling ourselves that we will get there. Eventually, we will. Thanks for sharing!

  • Kent Miehe

    I agree with your statement. If we never get up after getting pushed down, we’ll never find out what we are capable of. Some people don’t realize that getting pushed down only makes us stronger and more experienced for the next time we try something. Success is found by adding up all of our failures and learning from them. If we can stick to whatever it is we want to do, no matter what happens, we will eventually end up where we want and achieve our goals. Thanks for sharing!

  • BEATYSM25

    Great points, Erin! One of my good friends has a tattoo that says, “Never a failure, Always a lesson” and I think that phrase is so simple, yet so true. I have found that it is during times of trial when I learn the most about myself. I think the “failures” we all inevitably experience in life help us to appreciate the successes of life, and continue to challenge us to be better people. I think people can let challenges in life make them either bitter or better, and personally, I always try to see how they can make me better.

  • Samantha Lavenau

    Good for you for having a positive mindset! I believe that if you keep it positive and keep your expectations low then it will turn out positive in the end. Going into something new can be tough on you and your body. Keep you head up and no that everything will eventually fall into place, and that you worked so hard for this, and it will end up great!

  • Samantha Lavenau

    Good for you! Growing up I was never good at playing an instrument but all my friends were in the band. I kept practicing and practicing and eventually started to get good at playing the flute. For some people it might take more time to get good, so never give up and give it your all at all times and it will fall into place!

  • Julia

    Thanks for posting this article, Ann! As a college student, I plan on doing the same. I’m currently in school for physical education. As a physical education major, you have to take a variety of sports fundamentals. Let me tell you, I was probably good at one out of those six sports I had to do. I don’t have the proper coordination in some sports, but I have the interest and the drive to try. I am knowledgeable of what the body needs to do in the activity, but my body is not as coordinated as most college students apparently. Even though I’m not the best at sports, I still have a passion for teaching people, especially young children, the importance of health and physical activity. This article made me feel better about myself and makes me want to continue forward in my education so I can eventually prove to others what I can do.

  • Jessica Peardon

    This is true. However, my friends also drive me to do better. They get me to play sand volleyball, or just go for a walk. It’s a social way to exercise. It’s also friendly competition.

  • Kaila Witthun

    Wow. I needed this. I am so happy I read this. Going through middle and high school, so many things I loved to do were for the most part easy for me, I was good at them. If I wasn’t good at it, I didn’t like to do it and moved on. Sure it took hard work to be good at it, but it was easy for me. I wasn’t really rejected much then. It was getting to college that a lot of that changed. Things no longer came easy to me like they used to. So it was very frustrating. I still have to work hard, but now I have to work hard to understand instead of to just do. I start Chiropractic school this fall. I think how the entire human body works to be absolutely incredible. Sometimes when it gets to certain parts of understanding how it all works together it just seems so crazy to me and hard to wrap my head around it. I hate being rejected as I am sure many do. I hope I can push through rejection as incredible as you have.

  • Thumbs_up

    Awesome. Ann, you really are a writer. You have a good way to get into the point with a great surrounding story. Be stubborn and have fortitude definitely are the key. Get what we want by hard work is the best way to show unbelievers that we are not just dreamers, but doers.

  • Erin

    I love that, “never a failure, always a lesson” it is definitely true. I totally agree that the failures we have helps us realize and appreciate the good things in life, including our successes. And a lot of people see failure as such a negative thing but it really is a lesson and you can grow so much from those lessons. It is all a learning process, you cannot be successful if you aren’t first successful at failing.

  • RadebaugVP02

    I believe anyone can do it. It takes time and practice, it’s not like I started out like that haha.

  • flaschbm09

    I always here this phrase being said, “Fake it till you make it” and like some of the other people who have commented, never actually tried it. I was always the type of person who was really hard on myself and if I didn’t do well in something, I usually gave up completely on it and just moved onto something else. I think that I just need to find that one thing that I truly love and am passionate about and then “fake it till I make it.”

  • ryanstorto

    A great motivating article. I think this should teach us strive to succeed in
    what we believe in and what we feel is important to us. We know ourselves
    better than anyone and know what we are capable of doing everyday of our lives.
    We should never let someone discourage us from our dreams or hopes. We should
    all keep “faking it” until we reach our goals. It’s never easy to make a team,
    run a race or become a writer, but what if we all gave up every time someone
    told us we weren’t good enough or fast enough, we would be sitting doing
    something we didn’t enjoy and regret ourselves for not pushing ourselves to do
    the best we can – no matter how long it takes. We then become proud of
    ourselves and accomplishments and, sometimes even more rewarding, get to show
    those that didn’t believe in us that we will, we can and we did what we set out
    to accomplish.

  • CPanella1

    I haven’t always understood the quote “fake it until you make it” until college. I realize you can start all over here with new people surrounding you. I was never a great “sit in class student” . I’d rather be out and about learning hands on, probably because I hate sitting still and being quiet. My mind wanders and finds creative ideas to always be thinking up and sometimes sitting on my butt in a classroom holds me back from something greater. Although education is the foundation to success, I believe failure is right up there next to it. Fake it until you fail, screw up, fall down, and then stand up, don’t give up, and make it.

  • Timothy Joseph Basaldua

    I’ve gone though several periods in my life when I felt like I wasn’t good at anything. I always gave up when things got hard. Now, I realize that a lot of people are depending on me to be successful. I realized that I can’t aim to please other people. I have to do it for myself. Right now I feel like things are going pretty well, but I know there will be a time when things aren’t going so well. I think it’s important to know how to use healthy coping mechanisms and try to get though the hard times, because unfortunately we will go though hard times again and again.

  • Will Ettl

    The line fake it until you make it has been a huge part in a lot of peoples life. I do not personally believe that it is a true statement and really works out. at some point someone will find out and let everyone know that you are a fake. yess you can cover up for a while but not forever.

  • Austin Jones

    I think there is rarely an excuse to quit or give up. Gotta keep trying until you make it! Weaknesses are always as weak as you may think they are. I found myself in this situation with frisbee. at first i was so bad and wanted to give up but kept on it and now im great!

  • Alex Marski

    Great article Ann! “success takes time” is something everyone needs to realize. success may happen the first time around for some people but a majority of the time it will lead to failure several times. Those who fail and get embarrassed and don’t try again are the ones who wont succeed. Those who fail and fail all over again and keep pushing to achieve success are the ones who will eventually be successful.

  • Nathan Tessar

    I love the quote at the end. “Fake it. Eventually the embarrassement and rejection fades and you will make it” It’s 100 percent and even though I’m not one of those people that figures it out right away, giving up on somethings isn’t the right thing to do also and its something I defiantly learned from this article.

  • Katie Germain

    I think this is a great article! Success does take time and failure can be inevitable. As long as you push yourself and keep at what you love, you will find that in the end success will happen. Giving up should never be an option.

  • Katie Germain

    I think this is a great comment! I think we all try to “fake it until we make it” because most of us still don’t know what we want to do with our lives. I know that I am still questioning my major and what I am going to do after college, but I always try to have a positive mindset. You’ll definitely figure out your plan as long as you keep your positive thoughts!

  • Katie Germain

    I agree Samantha! I think as long as people keep a good head on their shoulders and keep thinking positively, then things will fall into place. We are still so young and have time to figure out what we want to do with our lives. Things will work out in the end but until then we can continue to “fake it until we make it.”

  • Katie Germain

    I agree with your comment! I think it’s great that you never give up! When failure strikes it can be so easy to give up and quit things, but what makes a person strong is how they carry on after failure.

  • Katie Germain

    I think it’s great that you were able to pursue your love for the flute, even if you were struggling as a musician in the beginning. I have heard you play before and I think you are fantastic at it. That just shows that practice does make perfect and even if you don’t succeed at what you love, keep trying and eventually you will get it.

  • Katie Germain

    I never thought of it as well Austin but after reading this article I realized that that is exactly what I do. I have come across failure in my life but I still continued to pursue things so I could succeed in the future.

  • Katie Germain

    I like your point “That does not mean you cannot be good at your weaknesses.” I think embracing our weaknesses is what makes a person so strong. We can learn from our mistakes and failures and better ourselves. Trying our hardest will benefit us in the long run and others will see how hard of workers we are.

  • Emily Krueger

    I am truely inspiried by your story. I love your passion and drive to never give up and follow your dream of running. Also being apart of the track team even though other people were telling you should quit. In the end I fell this is a great example of passion, determination and self control. So next time someone tell me I can play a sport I will think of this great story and follow my dream just like you did.

  • Paige Cuchna

    Good things take time and nothing is perfect. If things were perfect then there wouldn’t be room for failure and like you said thats inevitable. You need to get through the bad times to get to the good. Nothing is going to be an easy path but the end result is worth it!

  • Lauren Schlicht

    Thank you for sharing your story! I don’t know why or how anyone would ever tell you you’re a bad writer because honestly I look forward to your posts on this site and when I do get the chance to read through your articles, something along the way sticks, along with the fact I totally love your sarcasm. I can relate to your post in a lot of ways. I am just about to finish my under grad career and I find myself, more than ever looking back and thinking…”oh my god I’m about to graduate from college.” I am brought back to all the nights I sat up studying for some of my hardest classes thinking how in the hell am I going to pass this, but some how or another, I did it. I stuck with it and fought through my doubt. Thats exactly what your story stays to me, you fought through it and ended up accomplishing your goals.

  • Lauren Schlicht

    I also am a fan of the quote at the end! It holds so much truth. I think its one of those things where you have to stay true to what you really want and just go for it, ignoring the doubt and uncertainty that comes with it in order to accomplish anything worth having.

  • DavidMizelle1

    I like that quote a lot, too. Sometimes it’s less about how others perceive you and your abilities and more about being confident and continuing to try until something clicks.

  • DavidMizelle1

    It’s probably a good idea to mix things you are comfortable and uncomfortable with. But, sometimes it takes trying something that makes you feel uneasy in order to find out if something is for you or not.

  • afallon14

    This is an excellent article! It is so important to never give up on something you have been dreaming of and working hard for. Success definitely takes time and failure, but in the end it is all worth it to keep on pushing yourself because in the back of your mind you should be thinking that failure is not an option. Your goals should always keep you going in life even though there will be obstacles.

  • Desiree

    I love this, you never gave up after everyone was telling you, you cant or your not that good and you didn’t let that break you, it made you stronger and that’s awesome! I feel like that was confidence and determination, something a lot of the younger generation don’t have because now with some people if they get told they cant do something they believe it. the article just goes to show that theres some great feeling of proving people wrong. this is probably my favorite one so far.

  • schoenherr2424

    I understand her points but the article title can kind if be deceiving. What I was reminded of by reading this article was pain and simple: don’t give up. Thus article is a good reminder that if at first you don’t succeed, try try again.

  • Ryan Dow

    This is a great life leason to learn. Many people just give up, but I was raised not to give up. To work hard and gain what ever it is your striving for.

  • Tyler Hebert

    The quote “Fake it till’ you make it” is important to me because I am a Physical Education major. Sometimes as a teacher, you might not know how to do something, but you have to make it look like you do so the students feel like they are learning. One of my professors now, actually tells us this all the time.

  • kgonyo

    If you give up every time something doesn’t work in your favor, how do you expect to get anywhere? While facing rejection is difficult and sometimes hard to get over, faking it until you make it can be just the thing that gets you to the next step in your journey. Would you be where you are today if you had given up on everything that wasn’t handed to you?

  • Leah Renee

    this is amazing and so inspiring!! everyone needs this blog in their life! *tears up*
    never give up:)

  • Tyler Mueller

    Don’t ever give up on anything. Some people are good at sports, while others are good at school, while others are good with cars. No body is the same and everybody will be good at their own thing. We as individuals now have to find that one thing that we are really good at and stick with it. You’re going to see failure when trying to find that true gift inside of you, but failure is not a bad thing. If you take failure as a challenge and work even harder to over come your obstacles you can and you will be successful. So don’t follow the person you thinks is cool around all the time, and try to be just like them because your skills are probably different than that individuals. Be yourself and find what you are truly good at, and when you find your gift work as hard as possible to master the gift you were given.

  • Steven Hass

    What a great article. Not only does this show that everyone can do what they want, but if they are bad at it, that persistence will be key. Why let other people discourage what you love because of one person’s opinions?

  • Steven Hass

    I agree that the title is very deceiving, but the other points she makes are really good. I was not expecting this type of blog by the title.

  • Steven Hass

    I think this is a great point. I hope that I will be able to not give up when I fail and show the strength it must have taken to get my own success.

  • Brady

    Either was I. I think the title should’ve been something different. Oh well.

  • McKennaKJ29

    I love this article. If there is an attribute you admire about someone else, doesn’t that mean, deep down, you want to be like that as well? If you admire and want to emulate that trait, why admire from afar? Pretending to be like that untill you can truly make the change is a great method of starting to change.

  • Timothy Joseph Basaldua

    I agree. I don’t always know what I am doing, but it’s important to be confident. If you don’t know the material, it’s just important to educate yourself when you have the opportunity. I think as a teacher, it is important to improvise. Involve the students, think of a class project, etc. I think it’s a good idea to be prepared! You can fake a lot of things if you have something prepared.

  • Timothy Joseph Basaldua

    I agree. I’ve learned that people have their own issues and they will take it out on you if you allow it. I try not to let other people’s anger or frustration effect me. It’s easy to get down and frustrated with the person and want to give up on them. I can’t tell you how many times I have come home after a long day and feel so defeated. It’s important to have support from friends and family. They usually get me through my rough days.

  • Jpl89

    I don’t like admiring from a far either. When I think something is worth admiration, the entire driving bit ion for that is for me to be able to achieve whatever it is I am admiring. I want to be able to do the things I found interesting or worthwhile or cool. I don’t want to be like ” ohh that’s really cool and awesome I’m just going to continue living my life never knowing or pursuing that sort of activity I’m just going to remain in awe of it” – yeah forget that

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I feel it is important that you don’t give up on something that you love especially if someone or something has shot you down. Just keep doing it because you love it! I dont think most of us would be where we are today if we gave up on everything that wasn’t handed to us.

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I coach a 12u softball team and I am currently trying to teach me pitchers how to pitch. And I have tried pitching when I was younger and failed miserably. I knew it wasn’t for me . But now that I am coaching, I kind of have to fake that I actually know what I am doing so my pitchers can actually learn something.

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I agree with you! But sometimes it is really hard to not just quit when someone keeps telling you over and over again that you just aren’t good at something. I know I have given up on certain things because they told me I wasn’t good enough. When I was a sophomore in high school I got put on the jv practice squad for volleyball told I would never play in a game. Wow did that hurt my self-confidence. So I quit but that didn’t stop me from trying something new, so i joined the swim team… best thing i have ever done!

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I agree that everyone has there only calling out there. I think it is important that we continue doing things we enjoy even if they don’t live up to other people standards or expectations. Because honestly who are what others think!

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I agree that people in this world are cruel in always dring to better themselves while they put other down because they didn’t live up to there expectations. And honestly we shouldn’t care what other say or think, we should do it because it is something we love to do!

  • Sarah Reynolds

    I agree people are afraid of failing but failure can only help us it makes us better we learn from those mistakes that we made.