Entrepreneurs are always instructed to network. But what do you do after you meet someone?  If you’re raising money, and you meet a potential investor, the steps are clear. But what about fellow entrepreneurs?  Or anyone else?

As one Unreasonable Institute graduate told me, “I’m sad that I’m not in touch with my fellow entrepreneurs.  But I know how busy they are, and I don’t want to be a bother.”  Sadly, this belief is all too common, as are the results.  Because you don’t want to bother people, you decide to wait until you have the perfect reason to reach out.  But when that time comes, a year or two has passed, and you’re too embarrassed to send the email or make the call.  And so another potentially game-changing relationship withers away.

Here’s a step by step guide to how you can stay in touch without being a bother:

First, make a list of people with whom you want to stay in touch. If you have to rack your brain to decide who to contact, you’ll end up giving up and turning on “Breaking Bad.”  Make it easy to reach out to people by having a list handy.  For years, I drove around with a printed list (complete with phone numbers) in my car.  This was in the days before we programmed names into phones.  Yes, I am old. Don’t make the list too long, or you won’t have time to follow the subsequent steps!

Second, write down the key facts about each person. I use Microsoft Outlook (have I mentioned that I’m old?); you could just as easily use LinkedIn or Evernote. The reason to write down these facts is because they will allow you to make your interactions meaningful and relevant—the key to not being a bother.

Third, communicate regularly *before* you need to ask for a favor.
Think about how annoying it is when someone only calls/emails/texts/knocks on your door when they need a favor. We all know someone like this. And we all resent him for it.  Don’t be this person!  Make sure you have multiple positive interactions before you ask for anything. Here are a couple of easy ways to do this:

Wish the person a happy birthday each year, using your key facts to compose a personalized message that asks about the family/projects/passions in their life.  It shows that you care, and it also helps you gather updates and other useful information to add to your profile.

Whenever you see a useful article on the internet (and by useful, I mean something that ties directly to one of their key facts), send them a link.  It takes very little time, yet it helps people remember you fondly.  (Imagine how hard this was in the dinosaur days when you clipped newspaper articles and snail mailed them!)

If you have a good relationship, make sure you call, and not just email.
Email is fine, but it doesn’t convey emotion the same way that the human voice does.  Call up your old friend, and say, “I don’t have any reason for calling–I just miss you.”  That’s a message that’s irresistible.  Then catch up on their life. They’ll probably ask about yours, and more likely than not, during that conversation, you’ll find a way you can help each other.  Make sure this happens by asking, “Is there anything I can do to help?” (Note: You actually have to *do* the thing to help!)

When’s the last time you got a call from an old friend on your birthday and said, “Boy, he’s such a phoney.”

If you think that this list seems artificial, and you’re worried that you’ll come across as a phoney, let me ask you this: When’s the last time you got a call from an old friend on your birthday and said, “Boy, he’s such a phoney.”  Can you remember a time when someone sent you an article that was uniquely useful to you, and you thought, “I hate it when people help me out.” Staying in touch works.  And as a bonus, you’ll probably feel happier too.

An Unreasonable Challenge:

Make a list of 5 old friends that you wish you spoke with more.  Write down the key facts about them (as many as you can remember).  In the next week, call each of them and have a catch-up conversation.  You’ll strengthen five key relationships…and make five people’s day.

About the author

Chris Yeh

Chris Yeh

Chris is the VP Marketing for PBworks, partner at Wasabi Ventures, and an avid startup investor and advisor. He is also a co-author of The Alliance and serial tech entrepreneur in Silicon Valley.

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  • I often have problem with this. It’s not that I don’t want to stay in touch, but sometimes life gets too busy and I often forget what needs to be done. Listing is a great tool to stay in touch, especially for those people whom you aren’t so close with. Another great way to stay in touch with people is just do it right at that moment you remember about them. Just call and say hello will do. People will appreciate that you spent a little time for them, even if it’s just a 1-minute call to say hi!

  • This hits the nail right on the head. I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles with this type of problem. I constantly like to network and use old co-workers or employers to help build my resume. I also have questions that could help me become a bigger and better person but never know the right time or type of communication to proceed with. What do you feel is more efficient phone call or email? Thanks for a great informative article!!

  • These are great tips Chris, thank you! #3 is especially important. Communicating with people before you ask for a favor is great advice. I’ve had to deal with this before; you get a call from someone you haven’t heard from in a while just to have them ask for something. It makes me not want to help them with it and makes you feel like they’re only talking to you for their benefit; because that’s what’s happening. I would never want to make someone else feel this way so I will definitely try to use this one. I have no problem picking up the phone to call someone; however, in a world that’s losing touch with actual phone conversations, is it always appropriate to call anyone to say you miss them? Are there certain people you shouldn’t say this to?

  • Very useful article that can be used in any profession really. One thing I thought was interesting was the idea of calling the person not emailing. In today’s youth culture calling a person has almost become a secondary action. Nobody calls each other, they text. But when I think of the people who I still do actually call they are the people I care the most about. That’s why I think calling them can be extremely beneficial. Do you guys feel the same way? Or does texting have the same impact?

  • These are such great tips, and they can apply to lots of different aspects of life, be it distant family members or old coworkers. It’s amazing how much a simple “hello, how are you?” can do to a friendship. How do you feel about social media in regards to keeping in touch with people? Do you feel that this list could be directly applied to social media?

  • I am so guilty of the “asking for a favor, when you haven’t spoken to the person in while” part. I always think “oh yea I know this person that can….ect.” after that thought i realize its so long long since I’ve talked to them it makes me sad. Losing track of time is what really happens to me. So,times life gets so busy that you forget about what is really important. Don’t you think everyone should take s few minutes in a day to just say “HI” to an old friend?

  • EXACTLY! This is what the professor mentioned in my stress management
    class. I need to identify my goals and priorities. Before FaceTime
    arrived, I often had problems with this. Now with amazing technology, I can
    communicate with people easily and regularly before I ask them for favors little by little. I do admit that sometimes I wonder what the point of staying in touch like that is because we have Facebook and Twitter, where people can stay updated.

    Thank you for sharing your steps, I will definitely use your steps for myself and
    share your steps with my family. I need to teach my kids how it’s important to
    stay in touch.

  • This is something I have personally been trying to work on lately as well. Being off at college, it sometimes is hard to remember to keep in touch with your closest friends and family who you no longer see on a regular basis. And I think it stinks when a friend calls you just because they have a problem and need help because Its nice to hear from them every once in a while and know what they have been doing. These are great tips and I am going to try this out.

  • This is pretty good. I would have to say 3 and 4 are the most crucial and possibly the ones that can make you or break you. You have to do it carefully and not too pushy otherwise it can come across awkward and that’s the last thing you want. But I have found more often that I wish I kept in contact with someone or at least got their contact info for the future, than getting someone’s contact info and really not needing it.

  • This article really helped me out with the basics of keeping in touch with people. This is one of the areas I struggle with and am working on trying to improve. Networking is so important and makes all the difference in your professional life yet I feel like I struggle with it. These basic steps will help start me out on the right track.

  • This is a great idea. Listing the basics and why each are important. It’s more simple than we really think! Also if we write it down we’re more likely to take it all into account and stay on top of this!

  • Chris Yeh makes a great point about staying in touch. I would certainly act upon this. Especially, it does make you feel better when a friend keeps in touch with you.

  • I am a junior in college, and I transferred to my current school this year. I made many connections the last two years at my other school, and I always wanted to make sure that I stayed in touch with them when I went away to school. I have been staying in touch fairly well, but these tips will help me out so much more!

  • I agree! Staying in touch with my past mentors, bosses’ and volunteer advisors has only helped me proceed throughout my career. When i need a letter of recommendation or help, they are only a call away. Staying in touch can be hard, but like you said, these tips will help me a little more.

  • This is a great article, really useful! I’m currently in university and I have met so many amazing people and made some great friends, but one thing that is always lingering in the back of my mind is the thought of not seeing or speaking to people that I am friends with when I leave and obviously I don’t want to seem like a nuisance if i do contact them. This article gives great points on how to get back in touch with old friends and I really like how you said to find out key facts about them, it will show them you are genuinely interested about them and not just out to get a favor.

  • This is wonderful! I often find myself feeling like i nag people or bother them from trying to stay in touch too often. My freshman year of college I became really good friends with my roommate, however after she moved away it becomes more difficult to communicate. I love talking to people, but sometimes don’t know how to stay in touch so this article was perfect!

  • Awesome article and so simple. Four steps to stay in touch. I think the third one is the biggest. I am always hearing stories like this. Its kind of rude in a way. How hard is it to send a text or email every once in a while just to say hey keep in contact. If the person is busy they will usually get back to you when they have a chance. Thanks for posting.

  • This is a good point. It’s nice to just be there every once in a while to pop up and send a text. That way when we need something or want to ask a favor, it doesn’t seem fake or like we only talk to them when we need something

  • It really sucks to feel this way but it’s true. We may not do it on purpose, but we always seem to have people in the back of our pocket and take advantage of it from time to time. When I do ask people for favors that I haven’t talked to in a while, I try to make sure that I am not pressuring them and acknowledge that I may not keep in touch like I should but I never ask for a favor unless I completely have to

  • Communication is on a spiral downfall in society today. It is crazy how many people do not know how to communicate or when to. The matter of fact is that we need to stay in touch if we care about people. You could be annoying, but then again if you choose to go about it in the right way there is no such thing. These four steps to saying in touch are awesome! More people today need to read this article! But I disagree with the whole (without being annoying) statement because some may believe these steps are annoying.

  • I can see how useful this can be especially for people who are graduating from high school and college. We all want to stay in touch and we all say we will but somewhere along the line we lose touch. No reason as to why most of the time life just takes us in different directions. These are great tips for staying in contacts.

  • With the advancement of technology, I think a lot of us have gotten lazy. I still try to go out of my way to send snail mail whether it be a thank you note or a birthday card, just to show someone that I care. I know that when I receive mail, it puts a smile on my face, knowing that someone was thinking of me. It is important to take time out of your day to help others, as it not only makes you feel better, but also is appreciated in return.

  • This was a short and fantastic read. Even with how easy it is to stay in touch during this age, I think that most have problems staying in touch with old friends and acquaintances. These four points listed in this article will definitely be staying in the back of my mind. I challenge people to instead of sending a text to just call and chat a bit. The art of communicating over the phone is sadly all but lost to most my age unfortunately.

  • Thank you Chris for sharing that article I found that I could relate this it. It is so easy to loose intouch with people at this age because I am in college and don’t see my friends from back at home that much. When I went to college I was scared that I would loose connect with them. However that wasn’t the case at all with some of them I am closer then ever with. Yes, someone of them I don’t talk to that much. Now I find myself talking to them almost everyweek or every other just to check up. Then when I come home we normally see each other to. By going away to college help me realize who my true friends are in life and will be friends for a long time. Thank you again for sharing this article I really enjoyed it.

  • Thank you for posting this article! It made me look at my life and I handle these type of situations. There was one step that I found that I need to work on, it was step 3. Being away at school I don’t see my family a lot and so when I call home right away they know I need something. Which, it shouldn’t be that way. If I call home I want my parents to know I am calling home to talk to them, not because I need help with the bills or something along those lines. So I am now going to make an effort to call home once a week just to see how my parents are doing and hopefully them thinking I need a favor from them will gradually go away.

  • These are such great tips! A company Ive interned with before my main job was to keep in touch with customers and vendors and I would have to ask them a lot of questions and I always felt like I was being annoying every time I would email them. I do think it is so important to be personable with them to maintain a good customer relationship and throw in a call every once in a while it really brightens their day!

  • I think these tips really only work if youre looking at the business world or keeping in touch with clients. If I want to keep in touch with a friend without being annoying, some of these wont help me much…

  • I do the same thing. Usualy the only time I call home is to talk to my mom so she can help me with something here at school. Probably should just call to say hi once in a while..

  • I completely agree with this. Technology is making everyone lazier. No one picks the phone up and calls anyone anymore. Its all texting or emailing or messaging. Face to face contact and conversation is a thing of the past, which I think hurts us all in different situations of life.

  • This is great advice! Unfortunately I feel that too often people avoid having phone call conversations. Sending links is something I had not considered before but since you’ve brought it too my attention I’ve thought it was brilliant! It is an easy act on the senders part, and a nice gesture on the receiver’s part. Thank you!

  • This is a great article. Not only does it pinpoint our stupidity, but it also has an action plan for us right here, that will help us from being the ‘phoney’ friend that we do not want to be. I here also think this whole idea of making sure we have a few conversations with a person before we decide to ask a favor is good; but it just seems so incredibly strange that we don’t just act this way, we have to be told that this is how we should be behaving.

  • I have found that keeping in touch with high school friends is becoming more challenging. People I went to high school with are at different colleges and the time at school has made it harder to communicate. Others are getting jobs and moving away from our hometown. Its important to check in and just say hi – ask how things are going etc… Commenting on each others Facebook etc… is a good way to stay in touch. The further out of touch we fall then the harder it is to fall back into touch. I agree that we should list some friends that we want to stay in touch with and work at maintaining our friendship. Its too hard to keep up with everyone, but staying in touch with the most important people to us is a good idea. I think staying in touch with these people will improve our quality of life greatly.

  • So often people do want to reach out but are paralyzed with fear and inaction simply because they don’t know what to do. This straightforward guide for taking the first step and continuing to follow through takes away the excuse of not knowing where to start. There is always risk that someone you reach out to may not be entirely welcoming or grateful. It stands to reason though that it is much more beneficial to make a policy of tactfully keeping in touch instead of hiding under a rock. Take a chance and say hi!

  • I love this article. Now I have hundreds of people at work and I always try and get some info about their life outside of work. I don’t go to the effort of writing this info down but I love when I visit with them again I’m able to say “how was your hunt this year?”, or “How is your daughter doing in college?” This usually opens a door of cooperation if I need them or their team to help with a project. As far as my personal friends, I actually schedule on my calendar to call them. I was always reminding myself, I need to call Tammy and then I would get distracted and never call. Now it is on my calendar, usually on my way home, to just check, see what’s new and just let them know that I do think about them.

  • I think this is a wonderful article that brings up a great point. I have friends who only contact something when they need something and it is really frustrating. It often makes me not want to respond to them. I think it has happened to me once or twice and am doing my best to make sure i do not do that.

  • As an introvert, these are great, actionable tips to keep in mind to maintain good networking relationships. All too often I can get caught up in my own microcosm that I lose sight of the importance of keeping in contact with others. This article inspired me to begin getting in contact with those who’ve been so gracious to help me along my way.

  • I absolutely love this post. I myself become very timid to continue communications with individuals that are not in my closest network. Knowing that investment in relationships is key in customer satisfaction and the success of organizations, because those relationships forge connections to anything and everything to could ever need. This post brings out a genius idea that had never crossed my mind–creating a log of my connections to assist in remember what is important to them (and ultimately showing them how important they are to me).

    On a side note, I find it funny that the author of this post referred to the one that only makes contact when a favor is needed as “him”. –Making me think that there is a specific person in his network guilty of this that he left name-less.

  • I thought the article was very interesting. I completely agree with each piece of advice. It basically states that we all need to personalize our interaction with each other even more. In a world where are are constantly sending edited and truncated messages, and never fully giving our undivided attention to each other, it is great advice to stay in touch with each other, in a non conventional way. Send more hand written notes, call on the phone more and limit the instant emails or texts, make more mental notes on personal traits in terms of our acquaintances and colleagues. Basically, be and act more personal. I know that may not be as easy as it states, but sometimes you need to fake it to make it, and the faking it part becomes more real and eventually a heart felt habit. I don’t really agree 100% with the motives for the advice in the article, but I do agree that a good starting point is to become more personal in our communication, which will eventually lead into something more real and tangible.,
    Great article.

  • This article is something that I am definitely able to relate to. There are many people that I wish I had stayed closer in touch with, but didn’t because I thought they’d think I was just a pest with their busy lives being focused around jobs and their families. Making a list and notes next to each person discussing the things you last talked about with them is a great idea. That way, I’d be reminded to catch up with people and make sure to stay in touch.

  • Admittedly I am the worst at staying in touch with people, mostly because its been too long and I’m not sure how to restart the conversation. This article is very helpful for that, I always feel like I am a bother when trying to reconnect with someone and I can absolutely use the information in this article to help me stay in touch. Really good and relevant article.

  • I totally agree. I normally apologize and they normally respond with i totally understand type of statement. I tend to surround myself with people who are willing to do little favors no matter what. And not ask anything for it in return. Just doing a person a favor and knowing they are helping is good enough for them. I in turn try to be that same person as well. How about you?

  • I really enjoyed reading your article. I admit, through being a student full time and working on the side it is really hard to keep in touch with old friends, and some other people that are close to me in my life. When I was reading your article, it made me realize that I do have some people that I do not keep in touch with as much as I used to, such as some old high school friends. I figure that their lives are too busy and they will not have the time to catch up. But then I think about how close we all used to be in high school and it makes me sad thinking that we hardly talk anymore. I want to take your challenge, and hopfully I’ll be able to build back up the close relationships that we all had. Thank you for sharing!

  • This article is spot on for this moment in time. We get so consumed in our busy schedules that we forget that there are other people around us that deserve attention. Whether that be the garbage guy, a coworker, classmate, or family member. Sure, they all deserve this attention in different ways but they still exist and still matter.
    It can be hard to stay in touch with people, and we do miss out then….on a lot.
    No man is an island, and the person you meet today could be the best friend you have 6 months from now.
    And the job fair you go into today could be the career you have in that same amount of time.
    It’s about living in the moment and actually taking time to invest in people, even in the smallest ways.
    In business endeavors, it’s equally as important as personal close relationships because that resource can change your opinion or future path.

  • “You know you’re a grown up when you have no friends.”
    My mother would consistently tell me this when I was younger, as well as tell me I won’t keep any friendships I have with current friends.
    As I grew older, I realized the difficulty of actually keeping important friends close to me. Everything gets busy, everyone’s schedule doesn’t match up, and life gets in the way. I have grown to realize everyone is busy and you will not always see the person, but just like this article mentioned, it is important to call and contact them. This works both ways too. I believe one person shouldn’t consistently call the other person. It should be a mutual friendship.
    I don’t have as many friends as I use to. I agree with my mom to a certain extent. I still have a couple of friends I have known for years and I contact them regularly.

  • I make a personal effort to reach out to people just for the sake of catching up and saying that I miss them. It is ridiculous for us to think we need an excuse or reason to strike up a conversation with them. Starting a conversation without an obligation behind it (such as a birthday or holiday) is so much more sincere.

  • This article is so inspiring! I feel like a lot of adults struggle with this issue all the time, I know I do! It’s so easy to get caught up in the busy lifestyle, but it would be so much more rewarding to keep in contact with the people you want to. I will definitely try this out, I do not want this to be one of my regrets on my death bed someday!

  • This was a great read! I totally agree with your comment. I am about to graduate college and will be leaving some of my best friends while I venture into the real world. I too will be using some of these suggestions from the article to keep in contact with my college besties!

  • This is a good article! I am horrible about staying in touch with even some of my best friends since i moved away to college. It is hard to when my life is so busy and their lives are busy as well. I like the thing about if you find a link about them then you send it to them. That would show that you are thinking of them and miss them I like that. Networking for business majors can be really hard. I meet a lot of people in my classes and I am very bad with names. I try to remember but that is where my struggle is with networking.

  • I love this article! I am about to move out of state away from all my friends and family. As excited as I am about the new adventure I am about to embark on I am nervous about keeping my connections and relationships that I have worked hard on. This article gives easy steps to keep in touch after college. As much as I want to stay in touch with everyone, I know that is extremely unrealistic since I will be making many more connections in graduate school. It makes sense to make a list of people you want to stay in contact with and focus on those relationships. One thing I think that could have been talked about is the reality of relationships being a two way street. Although yes it is your job to reach out to connections, if they are not reaching back at least a little bit, it may be time to put your efforts else where. Especially if those relationships are the people who are harder to reach or connect with.

  • I will definitely be trying these tips soon. Even my high school friends I am so out of touch with. It can be awkward to start talking again out of no where. But, being honest that you miss them is probably your best bet. If I have someone I know I should talk to more, I keep their text messages on my phone and don’t delete them. Then when I go through them I think “Oh yeah I need to talk to them more”.

  • Keeping in touch is so important. Personally, I know this first hand. I have a boyfriend who is miles away a lot of the time and we rarely get to see each other, and the only way we can keep in touch is through calling, texting or skyping. I am so thankful for the technology that we have today because it really does keep us close, even though we are in completely different states. It is almost impossible to have a relationship without communication. There are times when I think about, what if we were not able to keep in touch or communicate with each other? Keeping in touch is what keeps you connected. If you fail to keep in touch, that connection starts to drift away and then eventually, the relationship that you once had is gone.

  • Communication should be so easy today with all of the platforms that we have; social media, cell phones, email. However, I feel that none of these platforms have helped with our overall communication. Millions of us still lose contact with people every day. This article, however, give many good tips that I never would have thought of. I look forward to trying some of these and rebuilding some relationships!

  • I feel like there is more platforms to communicate, but the platforms don’t allow us to really communicate. Talking to each other in person is much different then the other communication platforms that we most commonly use. Now a days instead of calling a friend to wish them happy birthday we do it over Facebook or text or Twitter. A call or going to visit the person is a better option in my opinion. Its more personal and more more meaningful.

  • Communication is key in relationships, and they would not succeed if we did not communicate. I have lots of good friends that live in other states and we stay connected through technology and never miss a beat on each others lives. My best friend whom I live with is moving back home after graduation, so these tips will be useful when we are separated! Thanks for the post!

  • Thank you for posting this article! I found number three to be a big part of staying in communication with someone. If you are just constantly asking them for favors they will soon turn around see that you are taking advantage of them and they will then stop helping. it is important to maintain a solid relationship with them.

  • These are great ideas for staying in touch. I could even use these ideas in my life being a college student. Sometimes I find it hard to stay in touch with my friends from high school and a couple others who have moved away and what not. Staying truly connected with a friend can be challenging but I think your steps are smart and easy. I liked that one about sending them a link you found because it shows that you are thinking about them and I think people really appreciate things like that.

  • I can totally relate to you. I too have lost touch with some of my high school friends because it is hard to stay in contact when we now have different lives at different colleges. I do the same thing with my text messages! I keep the ones with people who I want to talk to often so when I see it I will be more likely to ask how they are doing and what not. It really is a great reminder for me.

  • It’s way too easy to fall out of touch even despite the amount of technology that exists to help us stay in touch. I feel as if social media has lead us to believe that posting on someone’s wall/profile once in a while keeps us in touch when in reality there’s no meaningful conversation happening in that. I think everyone should make the effort to make actual phone/skype calls in order to counteract the superficiality of social media interactions.

  • I definitely agree with this article because I definitely know people who only contact me when they are in need of a favor which I find incredibly annoying. I feel as though now with technology people think that simply being Facebook friends counts as keeping in touch with someone and what we don’t realize is that we have probably 500 friends on Facebook most of the people we can’t even name so that definitely shouldn’t count as staying in touch. People need to get back to basics and give each other a friendly phone call once in awhile.

  • This article is so easy to read, and yet it is filled with some of the best information I have come by in a long time. Relationships have been around MUCH longer than anything else has ever. Maintaining relationships seems to be something that we lack, especially in today’s age because we can easily meet people from around the world, but it is also very easy to just pick up and leave to another place around the globe. I think that being “old” school is much better, than trying to have it loaded up on a computer or some technology too. Carry it around in your wallet or purse and call it a day. Try this challenge people, because I am going to!!!

  • Social media has made communicating less personal and made us worse friends I think. Calling a friend is much more meaningful and actually talking to them in person is a better way to understand the person. You can hear the inflection in their voice and the conversation can be more productive because it is often uninterrupted.

  • Usually with your best friends you don’t feel any guilt asking them for a favor because you know that you both help each other out and its no big deal. Also, your best friends usually will help you out without asking because as your friend they can sense when you need it.

  • I feel like im never the annoying one when staying in touch with friends but i have definitely been annoyed by friends trying to stay in touch with me. it can be hard to find the perfect balance of being in touch and not being annoying. These tips will be very useful to stay in touch with you after college!

  • I think that hearing someones voice or having in person conversations are a really important part of keeping up relationships because if you think about it we all have some relatives we only talk to on the phone who we probably wouldn’t even recognize in person anymore because the only communication you’ve had has been on the phone!

  • Short and sweet and to the point. Communication is key. Social media has made this a lot harder in recent years. Just because we write on someones facebook wall wishing them a happy birthday doesn’t mean we’re actually communicating with them. There is no real conversation happening between the two people.

  • As cheesy as these steps are they really are important. If you want to stay in contact with someone you have to put in the effort. Taking time out of your day to wish someone that you think of as a close friend should just come as second nature. Also why wouldn’t you be curious as to how your friends are doing after not seeing or talking them for a while. I know I always enjoy catching up with old friends. These steps in this article are pretty easy for everyone to use also.

  • Great article, thoughtful tips. Couldn’t agree with you more. This is something I feel like I should do with many people that I have wanted to contact again in the past. There are some that I feel that I contact only if I have a question or need a favor, but this has shown me the importance of keeping these relationships for more then only those reasons. They are easy to do and will help keep friendships longer and stronger. And with technology, they should be even easier to do and a great way to stay connected.

  • I like the idea of calling a person rather than always communicating by e-mail. Sometimes e-mail is the easiest why to get a hold of someone, but talking face to face or via telephone allows the person to hear your voice and have physical contact with you. I also like the idea of follow up with the person throughout the year, not just when you need something. There has been several times when I have reached out to someone and never got a response, but when they ask for a favor, I feel like I am expected to drop everything and respond to that person. I feel like I have always been courteous to respond to someone when they have a question or a favor to ask me, because I understand how frustrating it can be not to get a response in a timely fashion.

  • I like how you are also suggesting we call friends in order to keep in touch with them. This is something we don’t think about anymore, especially because people encourage us to network these days. We don’t hear people encourage us to call people anymore. Calling an old friend just to talk and provide support will set you apart from everyone else, and make you appear less phony than people who keep in touch with you through only networking.

  • I recently had a phone call from a old friend and i was astonished at how awesome it was to actually talk to long lost friend. I am usually not a phone guy but we ended up talking for just over a hour. It really is a support system having friends that want to be a real friend and they actually do care about you.

  • Keeping in touch with old friends can be difficult! I recently met up with an old friend and it was uncomfortable since we had’t kept in touch the past couple of semesters. We had nothing to converse about and lead to an awkward experience on both ends. I agree keeping in touch is really important because over time it is easy to lose connections to those people who used to be important to you.

  • I know what you mean when you run into an old friend, it definitely can be awkward. Those first few moments of silence seem to last forever haha. But I think it is important to keep in tough because you never know when one of you might need favor.

  • I had something very similar happen to me just yesterday. My friend from high school say on Facebook that I had gotten a new job, and instead of just liking it or leaving a comment, she actually called me. It was great to be able to talk to her and catch up on things since we talked the last time. It’s great to know that even though we don’t see or talk with each other for months, we are still able to pick up where we left off.

  • I completely agree with staying in contact with old friends! Just being able to see how they are and what they have been up to is awesome but like in your situation having an awkward experience isn’t good.

  • This article was awesome! Staying in contact with old friends is important because having multiple friends is great. But my question is that depending how long it has been since your last time talking when is the friendship truly lost? I don’t like losing friends but it can be hard sometimes to get in contact with old friends.

  • I agree 100% with your comment on Facebook being ok enough for staying in contact with a friend. If you value that relationship you would want to actually have a voice conversation with that person to show that you still want that relationship and not a cyber one.

  • That ability to pick up after months or even years is what really shows who my real friends are and who are just people to fill the void of company. This may sad but the older I get the more this comes to be reality.

  • Losing connections with old friends is hard but when you both have gone different ways in life, it is sometimes hard to start up where you left back off. I am lucky enough to have a friend that even if we haven’t talked or seen each other in months, we pick up right where we left off before and are still able to have conversations with each other without it being weird.

  • I have found that taking the initiative to reach out to others is very important. Especially because a lot of people are wired with the personality type to not be the one to reach out even if they want to keep in contact. Therefore it is important for me to always be that person, to assure others that I do want to keep in contact. This excludes cookie cutter messages such as holidays, birthdays, etc. As mentioned in the article, a personal touch will do a lot. Lastly, I have always been one to do out of the blue messages they are a simple way to make someone’s day and start a conversation.

  • This is an awesome post! You can make all these connections, but then what do you do with them? You need to keep all of your connections. They may not be necessary for you right at the time, but they could be eventually! It’s key to reach out no matter the case.

  • I have lost touch with friends from high school and when you met up for the first time of not talking in 6 months, it is slighly awkward and uncomfortable. Because you don’t really know what to talk about because you have lost touch for so long. I like these steps to help staying connected with friends, I believe it is important to keep in touch with those who are important to you!

  • I enjoy this article and totally agree with it. I live Michigan and go to college in Wisconsin so of course I am not seeing my family and hometown friends as much as I’d like but I try to shoot them a text or phone call every once in awhile because I think it’s important to keep those people involved with your life and it helps keep you connected with them. So now when I go home and meet up with my friends, it’s like I never left. We always start right back up where we left off.

  • This seems like a relevant post to a lot of people. I feel it may not be so much from a business stand point like Chris Yeh mentions a lot, but from a social stand point. Many times I wish I would still talk to some of the friends I do not see now that we moved away from home.

  • My favorite part of this article is the note about wishing the other person a happy birthday. This is such a simple thing to do, yet is incredibly genuine and keeps you in the other person’s mind.

  • Staying in touch with friends and family is the most important thing to me and will always be. There is a good size group of people in my life that I will call personally and say happy birthday or see how they are doing if I haven’t talked to them in awhile. Especially family members. I always stay in touch with my grandparents, uncles, and parents to see how everyone is doing. Knowing that they are happy, makes me happier!

  • I totally agree with this. Little things matter a lot more than we think. The irony of the situation is that everyone knows how much they appreciate little things but are skeptical and timid about reaching out to do the little things that we know matter. I love it when people I don’t expect wish me a happy birthday. It means a lot more than they probably think it does.

  • I completely agree with you that even though we have all this advance technology to help us stay in touch doesn’t always helps us stay in touch. I agree that social media is not a way to have a meaningful conversation with someone. It seems very unpersonal and who really wants there whole friends list in on the conversation?

  • I agree it is hard to stay in touch with friends with high school because you have all kind of gone your own seperate ways but i agree that they steps provide can make it easier to stay in touch and are really smart idea that i would have never thought of.

  • This makes me think of the article about having more strength in connections with other people:” A thirty second story to remember when you feel inadequate”. Especially in the case of fellow entrepreneurs it is so helpful to have connections between each other and be able to help each other in some sort of collaborative fashion. I am personally not very good at keeping in contact, but I would like to stay in touch with these people. I wonder if anyone has tips for a good sort of archival system to put contacts in? Finally, This guide is helpful!